Give them up for adoption or abandon them entirely is the only way I know of that one can "divorce" their children.
Hi thank you for your answerwould you like to adopt my kids???Ages 47.36,33.31,mouthy,insensitive,know it all. they are all grown woman who come crying oly when they need something,if i advice tem im tld dont tell me what to do im grown.Tell me i was'nt a good mother that i'm nothing but a bitch drama queen.This has been going on forever,but know i have to have a liver transplant and cant take it anymore!!!!!
I am sorry to hear of your predicament XOnixaprxo, and since I also have to deal with adult children, I know they didn't get that way overnight. It started (this disrespectful talk) long ago.
I try very hard not to advise my grown up children(ages 54;50;50) and it has worked very well. They never ask me for anything other than clean beds and good food (when they visit) and I am happy to supply that for them. They mention favorite foods from childhood days and as long as I can provide those meals for them, I do. I have 5 grandchildren ages 27; 20; 20; 18; 16, and they also love to come to visit us and never ask for anything special except some foods or to some event they have enjoyed in the past.
That respect you are not getting flew out the door about 47 years ago, I do not know why, but you may remember how it was back then. I remember many tough arguments when mine were teens, and plenty of "laying down the rules" from about age 18 months to age 16. After that, it was them growing away from me (and rebelling) and rightly so. By now, we are good friends and they are very quick to let me know how much they love and respect me. So, I know it can be done...but it is not easy, and after they are the age of your kids, your influence is not needed. The best thing you can do for yourself today is: Try to understand them from their point of view and stay out of their way. Don't linger on thoughts of feeling sorry for yourself. Live with as much dignity as you can muster, and take care of yourself. If they see you acting mature, they may try it themselves.