Is my Wife Cheating?

I would not worry so much. My guess would be that your wife gets dressed up on days when there is a meeting to look more professional and feel better about herself. Perhaps she even wears a white coat usually? If so, then there would be no need for her to dress up on a regular basis. During meetings I would predict that the atmosphere is more relaxed and that coats come off. If you are really concerned then you should talk to her and let her know how you are feeling. Honesty and trust are very important in a healthy marriage.

I think that it makes sense that you are finding this suspicious, but the only way to really get to the bottom of it is to sit down and talk to her.  Let her know that you feel like it's a bit weird that she is all the sudden looking really nice every Thursday, and that you are sorry if you are wrong, but that you are worried about this.  You know that she isn't dressing up for you, so you want to know what it is exactly that she's dressing up for, or whom?  The only way to know is to talk about it and to say that you just want to know the truth.  Good luck.

Hi,

Any good relations are based on four pillars: Trust + Openess + respect + Communictin.  Oviously you lost your trust, and that is bad.  Yes you have some grounds to suspect (I would not !) and it's very hard to live with someone you suspect....   The best way to deal with it is to discuss it, in depth, openly, with her.   If you can't do it by yourself get a 3rd party (a good experienced friend that you both can trust).  The last thing you can do (and very very NOT recommended !): Is to hire a detective.   It can be pure coincedence and if she finds out that you hired a detective it can, by itself, damage your relations.   Better prepare the setting (you know what she likes) prepare what / how you are going to say, tell her you love her, that you want your relation to flourish and that something bothers you and you want to clear it.  Remember, it's a discussion (not a monologue), listen actively to what she has to say..... if you manage to solve that problem it will also strengthen your bonds.
Best regards,

Sometimes, when there are formal meetings, people dress up more to reflect the discussion, but not necessarily evening wear.  The office is probably closed as they are all in meetings at that time.

Right now it sounds pretty harmless, unless she is dressing to go out for the evening and the office isn't actually closed.

I am wondering if she is in the meeting or if there are people attending the meeting that are important for her to look good for. I'd ask myself is she dressing nicely or dressing sexier on Thursdays. If she's dressing sexier and the underwear is sexier or non-existent on Thursdays, I'd worry. Women dress up for women just like they dress up for men, the difference is the level of sexiness such as a more flattering top and a tighter skirt. If she's just "cuter" on Thursdays she might be trying to feel better about herself by getting a little male attention (maybe because a lot of men are around on Thursdays or maybe from you) it doesn't mean she is disappearing for an hour to get it on. As long as she is where she's supposed to be-when she's supposed to be there, there's not enough to worry about.

I don't like the "talking to mutual friends" decision because you really don't want to pull other people into the relationship. A third person could say anything to try to persuade you one way or another-especially if they know what's going on or if they are slightly envious of your relationship. it's just not cool for too many little reasons. How would she feel if she knew you were talking about her to one of your friends? 

 

As people told you, I don't think she is, or rather, I don't think you should base your suspicion on her dressing nice for the one day in the week they are having an office meeting. That makes perfect sense to me, when I worked at an office i always dressed nicely for a meeting. It gave me more confident to speak out loud and be more assertive.

I do think, however, that you have a trust problem, whether it's justified or not is another matter, but either there are more things that makes you suspicious or there's a problem in the relationship, or you have some problem with yourself. I'm not even sure asking your wife if she's cheating is a good idea, it's very insulting to be suspected for no good reason, but I do think the two of you need to address your lack of trust.

The best way to do that, would probably be at  marriage consulter office. It seem to me that two of you aren't very open with one another and that's a good place to learn better communication skills.  

I feel you are in danger of finding out that there is something going on I had a simular case with my wife and there was a affair happening right under my nose

Hey how you doing?  Just checking on you. Been where your at and can relate to you.  I had a cheating husband and on the dating sites too. Did you ever confirm you suspicions?  Hope all is well and if you have young kids find a way to stay happy at least until they know better.