Discuss LindaRuth's answer to: I don't know what's wrong with my marriage

All good advice above. I would add one thing.  You say that you both quarrel all the time.  Stop.  Just stop. Regardless of what he says, you can stop on your end.  Since he complains about everything then you know it's not you, it's him. Ask him " of all the jobs I have to do today, what can I do to be most helpful to you?" If he asks for his shirts to be ironed, focus on that one thing.  Maybe he will notice that you tried your best to be loving about that.  If not, you are in more trouble than we can help with.  I agree that a counselor might be needed.