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I don't know what's wrong with my marriage

I don't know what's wrong with my marriage. I am married for 6 years and have 2 children. Of late we seem to be quarreling all the time. Now a days he doesn't seem to like anything i do. My work, the way i handle children, even the way i dress. I try very hard but nothing seems to please him. I started feeling as if he lost all love for me.

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Yes, it is possible that your husband has become disenchanted with you and the children. 

Often, when that first glow of being in love  and planning a future, goes away, there is nothing left.  Disappointment sets in and we find ourselves regretting what we've gotten ourselves into. 

 Of course I don't know that this is what has happened in your case, but if it has, then you and your husband could benefit from seeing a marriage counselor.  Or, if you both want to have a good home life, you can sit down and have an honest talk about how you feel things are going. 

 

You can both, if you sincerely want to keep the family together, fix it yourself.  First, decide if you honestly do love each other, or did you simply love that early first glow of emotion?  This is crucial, because, for the long haul, there must be respect and a deep love that you each feel for your mate and your family unit. 

 

All marriages ....  ALL of them...need attention and work from time to time.  Some more than others.  If you care about your husband, try to find out what he honestly wants from this marriage.  good luck.

All good advice above. I would add one thing.  You say that you both quarrel all the time.  Stop.  Just stop. Regardless of what he says, you can stop on your end.  Since he complains about everything then you know it's not you, it's him. Ask him " of all the jobs I have to do today, what can I do to be most helpful to you?" If he asks for his shirts to be ironed, focus on that one thing.  Maybe he will notice that you tried your best to be loving about that.  If not, you are in more trouble than we can help with.  I agree that a counselor might be needed.

I think a marriage counselor might help. But I have to tell you this. Marriages have a few danger zones. 4 years can be bad. But 7 years is the worst. A LOT of marriages get in trouble around the 7 year point. The wife may not look as good as she once did, The husband may be tired of the same sex. They might both be tired of the responsibilities of the children. Oh, we don't talk about these things honestly because we're afraid they make us bad people somehow. But we all feel them. And it gets the worst. Even the most faithful person is in great danger of cheating at that time. Divorce rates zoom.

If a little knowledge is a dangerous thing, then that makes me a burning truck filled with TNT hurtling through a rocket fuel depot.

Talk to your husband first and try to get him to talk. If you both could identify the problem and work on it, that's great. But if not, then you both need to see a marriage counselor.

I'd also encourage you to pray about it. God does save marriages if the couple give Him a chance!

Good luck

Jesus is the truth, the way, and the LIFE

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