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How do i make myself want sex from my husband

we use to do it all the time now i take care of our 2 kids and his one and i work allday. he use to wnt it all the time. then he had 2 affairs with same girl and i cnt make myself wnt him or for him to touch me. and he drinks so i dont like the smell and it kinda shrinks him when he drinks

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Hi Ashley

First of all you he needs to restore your trust in him and you need to talk to him so he understands that.  It is very important for a couple to be open and honest with each other.  Make sure he understands that you do not like to be with him when he is drinking.  You also need to make sure you make time for each other as a couple and not just as a family.  Go on date, remember why you fell in love in the begining.

Once you start talking, you can start rekindling your sex life.  Be romantic, give him a massage and ask him to give you one. 

If this does not work, consider couple therapy as a 3rd party may be able to heal the wounds that your relationship has.

best of luck to you

Have fun, but be safe, use a condom!

Marriage counseling quick

i wouldnt want to have sex simply in the back of my mind would be the 2 affairs he had he cant be trusted

I'm a little bit of a jerk on this subject, so prepare yourself! .. Me and my husband have a 7 year old, and she loves her daddy, I believe a child needs both parents. That said,.. I would dump the cheating pig so fast he wouldn't know what hit him!  I have zero tollerance for weak, idiotic men!  In our Wedding Vows WE ALL SAY; "Forsaking all others until death do us part."  I won't break my Vows to my husband.. under God.  We made a commitment to eachother.  If a person, (so lucky to have a partner and babies) is just a cheat, and can't keep their pants on around other people they have no business being treated with respect, or Married!  I wouldn't touch that guy with a ten foot pole.

I say don't fight your better judgement, dump the idiot and don't look back!  No slight on you, you obviously have class, but men like him are a dime a dozen.  You deserve better!


Hi Ashley,

I agree with Sexpert. That wil really serve as a therapy to regaining the love/connection u once had for each other. Marriage counseling is recommended as it might be the headway to getting a more thrustworthy relationship once again..


"Never pretend to a love which you do not actually feel, for love is not ours to command." <a href="" rel="nofollow" cl="http://www.quotationspage.com/quotes/Alan_Watts/" class="comlink">Alan Watts</a>

Sounds like you are pretty disgusted by your husband so why are you still with him? If you want to enjoy sex with him and really want it, you need to leave the past in the past and try not to think about his infidelities. Have him brush his teeth before sex, get him to quit drinking or have sex while he's sober. But like I already said, why be with a man who disgusts you so much?!

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