Posted by psygib 2 years ago In:

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A wake up on Yedda

Hello i got a question that i am hoping for a strong discussion about. First without going to indepth with related details. i have seen multiple psychologists from multiple states and have taken multiple psych eval tests. since i was 6 i am now 31. with this mentioned in my life there has only been 1 conclusive diagnosis found and that was adhd. i believe that enviroment and genetics make up the intelligence level of a person. For most people there are only 2 constants in life change and adaptation basically learning what your taught. And not to seem a little off but the constants related to my belief were psychology/psychiatry and constant change i.e not living in a place or work or being around a person longer then 3 years this does not include my attachment issue with my wife who i have been with 9 years due to really not wanting to be alone or shall i say my deep but not overwhelming security blanket or safety net (Not a overall good thing for her to be truly happy). i also have 3 beautiful daughters that i can say that there is nothing like a fathers love. now theres the scary part i believe that with the pressing life of psychological and/or analytical problems i have had throughout my life i could severly psychologically have a negative affect on them. With that being said i will do or give them the world starting with the most important love. Now here is the question. DO YOU THINK A PERSON CAN HAVE AN OBSERVATION OF HAVING TO BE AWAY FROM THE ONES WHO DEPEND ON YOU BUT NOT LOSE THEM AND SUPPORT THEM EVEN IN A REALITY OF A RECCESSION IN THE ECONOMY?

i have to take care of my girls I refuse to have another man raise my daughters that is against everything i have been taught and with no doubt it is against my belief and there will be for once in my life no compromising there. Yes i will probably have people tell me i need to see a psychologist and have family counseling i understand that. My girls our kids right now and i refuse to give them adult problems or allow them to see that the best i can. It really is not as bad as i make it sound it is sadly to say 90% in my head thats why i wonder and i have not met a psycologist/psychiatrist that i have not been able to munipulate and/or convince that i am ok.(admission not concieted) Now that i have been able to relax for the first time writing this information to a substancial amount of people. i was at 18 approved for social security i refused it i did not want to be dependent on the taxes others pay. i have a really great job that only an idiot would give up has great pay/benefits that a person with a only a high school diploma can get escpecially in this recession. Things are truly coming into a solid explosion because i have not found a release. Actions do speak louder then words. J/K Grandma i hope you are 1 person that will give an insight or a remark because i like your akroynym S.N.O.T.S and i need to smile and laugh. This is an outlet that is so powerful for the soul and health person.

If you have read this whole thing wow lol i am impressed.

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Skitch Answered:

Psygib ~

I'm sure you get asked this a lot, but have you been prescribed medication for your adhd and if so, do you take it regularly? Your post is manic ~ scattered thoughs and confused emotions. You seem to have a very difficult time carrying a thought to its end. If this is what is really going on in your head, you need to figure out a way to calm your thinking so it is more clear.

This sounds like a pat and very simple answer, but if you are only with your wife because you are afraid to be alone, you are fooling nobody. It is certainly possible for you to leave your family so you can grow up a bit, continue to provide for them financially and still be a large part of your children's lives. You are already damaging your children. They are not stupid, nor are they oblivious to what goes on around them. It sounds like you fear hurting your children, yet you play games with the people you ask for help. Perhaps if you really think about the damage you are doing to your girls, you will finally get down to business with a qualified physician and work on getting your life and mental health together. Otherwise, this is merely a question to listen to yourself talk. You are a mess. You know you are a mess. How low do you have to fall before you stop playing games with your girls lives?

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gary999 Answered:

Psygib, I'll be the first to admit that I'm no J/Kgrandma but since I do fall into the other group you mentioned ("a substancial amount of people") I did read your entire post and if this is a question (below) relating to leaving your wife and kids I do have an opinion;

"DO YOU THINK A PERSON CAN HAVE AN OBSERVATION OF HAVING TO BE AWAY FROM THE ONES WHO DEPEND ON YOU BUT NOT LOSE THEM AND SUPPORT THEM EVEN IN A REALITY OF A RECCESSION IN THE ECONOMY?"

Your wife will make her own decision regarding the path her life will take as a single parent after you depart, and if she chooses to remarry you will (I know this from experience) be involved with your children's step father, and his participation in raising your children. Now, if you think you can't handle this;

"i have to take care of my girls I refuse to have another man raise my daughters that is against everything i have been taught and with no doubt it is against my belief and there will be for once in my life no compromising there."

then I strongly recommend you take your own advice;

"Yes i will probably have people tell me i need to see a psychologist and have family counseling i understand that."

because you can't have your cake and eat it to. My next comment has to do with your statement;

"My girls our kids right now and i refuse to give them adult problems"

so if this is what you think you may be doing to them, that's all the more reason to continue seeking a professional that can help you. Your next comment is also a contradiction;

"i have not met a psycologist/psychiatrist that i have not been able to munipulate and/or convince that i am ok.(admission not concieted)"

and

"Things are truly coming into a solid explosion because i have not found a release."

because you sound as if you're taking a certain satisfaction fooling the people who you're paying to help you and you're concerned about where your current emotional state is leading you, so get some help before you end up having even more serious problems than you do now.