Marriage in trouble. 20 years together, caught husband twice cheating. I'm certainly not treated with respect and love like I deserve, so I retreat within my self. . I'm just there, to take care of the house and family and his needs. My question: Am I unreasonable to ask him to help around the house, to show an effort? because I am off work sick, disability, and he thinks that because I am home all day, that everything should be done, and dinner on the table, and I also do the cleanup. I am tired and I am sick, and I feel like a slave wife. I want a life of my own. But if I go out and do anything for me, the household suffers. Chores are not done. He gets angry if I ask him to do something..."you're home all day, what have you done, he says in a very loud voice". I don't know what to do. or is he right? He works all day. please help.