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Times are tough. Long distence, Heart ache and lack of communication!

So... I found myself falling in love with this girl. I mean I am in love with her. I just don't think she is in love with me. I know why I feel this way though. She grew up in a very unstable family and home without a father figure. Her mom has been married three times and I think she is afraid of love and pushes away her feelings. So I am very supportive of her. I just feel very unloved at some times. I tell her how I feel and get very little back and it kills me because I grew up in a wonderful family where I learned how to open up and express my feelings. She and I are also are in a long distence relationship. I moved out to california for work and I have a bright future ahead of me. We are both very young still. I am 20. I am not pushing for love. In fact I didn't want to fall in love just yet, but I did. I don't want to lose her but I can't handle not knowing if she cares or not. We have discussed our feelings numours times and I still don't feel fully connected with her yet. We have also discussed the possiblity of her moving to california but i'm afraid that won't happen. She doesn't want to believe that it's possible for her to have more than what she has. I just want to be with her and i'm afraid with this sitiuation that I'm going to anyway. I've tried being patient but I guess I'm just feeling a little buried under ground because she doesnt take the effort to try and convice me to stick around:( What should I do? *Bobby Vee*

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brosen
brosen Answered:

Bobby, in interpersonal relationships there is only so much you can do and you have done as much as you can. You cannot force it so you will have to hope that being patient will eventually pay off but there is no guarantee. You indicated there is no father figure in her home and that her mother has been married three times and all that also does not bode well for you. I think you should look for new friendships and relationships where you are now. It will be difficult for you to start but it will be worth the effort. Find someone from a more stable home like yours and you will find the chances for a healthy and strong relationship will be much greater.

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