How to tell your teenager she can not hang out with a friend

One thing for sure: you must describe your reason why she should not hang around with a particular friend. This is a matter of judgment. And that judgment needs to be explained in terms of the self-interest of the teenager.

The child(15) was not a social kid.  About 7 months ago befriended this girl and since her behavior and attitude has been going down hill.  She recently got caught drinking with this girl and is grounded.  We do not want her hanging out with this girl anymore.  I do understand kids make their own choices, but the influence of this girl has been nothing but bad.  How do we tell her she can not be with her (new best friend).  I can remember when I was that age, that was the last thing you wanted to hear from your parents....  How do we tell her without it baackfiring in our face?????

Tell her that you have lived thru the times she's going thru now and what she is going to go thru in the future.  Tell her that you know from experience what the downfalls are to just hanging out what trouble lurks on the street. Tell her that you love her and want to protect her from any emotional or physical pain that hanging out causes.  Now adays hanging out is considered "mob action" and that she and her friends don't really need that type of hassle. Hope this helps!

I am sorry I did not explain self-interest better. You need to explain to your daughter that the choices she will make in life, will determine whether she will  lead a happy or unhappy life. That often when we make the wrong choices early in life, we will reap the consequenses for the rest of our life. That you as parents see your job as keeping her from making mistakes that could have long lasting consequenses.

Explain that drinking is a copout. That it causes one not to think straight. That you think that she is bright enough to see that at her age to bomb out with a drink will get her into trouble. And that as long as she is under age, you still are responsible.

Then explain that once she turns eighteen she can go ahead and ruin her life. But then, if that still does not hit her, explain that as long as you are responsible for her, she will have to follow your restrictions.

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You have every right to choose who your kids hang out with. You are who you hang with. Do it now before it too late.. ANd the last time I checked we are the parents and we do make the rules!! A parent knows Best... Good Luck...

Mother of 1 Teenager... 15 yrs old

Well your question is a bit vague but let me try and state that most teenagers are not always obedient to your commands in which I'm sure you know that, being a mother of 3 teens your self.  Getting through to your child is very challenging but here are a couple of solutions I think you will find affective.

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Hello you are the parent!!! Go tell her that...make sure there is a valid reason though. You have the right over your kids. So many kids are on the wrong path, only if their parents had given them a slap when younger or kept them under control the world would be so much safer...