Teenager falling for best friend

Hi guys. Listen, I know that I'm only young but I would really appreciate some genuine advice.

I'm a 16 year old male. I live in the UK. I've never really been successful with girls-I'm not a reject or anything but I just haven't found anyone I really like. I asked up a couple of girls out (who said no).

All the time (for two years now) my best friend who is a girl has been there. In a less than modest moment I would say that at my school I'm one of the more talented actors and me and her are sort of considered the 'rising stars' in our year.

I'm closer with her than any other girl. And for a few months now I've been realising that I am having feelings for her. But not superficial ones-a really deep, solid sense that she could be the one. I am attracted to her at her least attractive moments (physically and personally)i it's a constant, unconditional feeling.

I know crushes for friends come around all the time but this has been for about four months now and every other girl just seems inferior in comparison.

She hasn't got a boyfriend and it all seems perfect but I'm not sure whether to tell her. I'm not certain she would feel the same way. And as me and her see one another a lot it could get awkward. However, I think our friendship is strong enough to survive it were she to say no-even though it would be odd for a while.

So my question is: Should I tell her?


Thanks for all advice

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Sam -- I know that you feel like you found the "one".  But you are still too young to really know who the "one" will be in your life.  Wait a little longer and see if you still feel the same.  Otherwise you stand a chance of ruining a good friendship.   

"Taken from the movie "Titanic" "A woman dies with many secrets in her heart"

I have to agree. Give it some time and see if the feelings last.

If a little knowledge is a dangerous thing, then that makes me a burning truck filled with TNT hurtling through a rocket fuel depot.

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I honestly know how you feel. I fell for my best friend, (I'm a girl, and well he's a guy) after I had known him for almost a year. My crush on him lasted a little over a month, and about 5 months after that I told him that I used to have a crush on him. He was very cool about it. And we're still friends to this day. My advice to you would be to wait to see if the feeling last. If they fade, then you can go ahead and do what I did. (It'll make you feel a lot better, trust me.) If you still have the feelings after a while, then tell her! Let her know that you still want to be her friend. Who knows, she may have a crush on you too! Ya never know :)

If you walk the footsteps of a stranger, you'll learn things you never knew. ♥Being deeply loved by someone gives you strength, while loving someone deeply gives you courage.♥

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