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Since October 2008 to now I went from R80000 to R20. I am a white girl, blonde hair, in South Africa and I loose every opportunity and every job to a black or coloured person. I am 34 but look 24, and am currently studying drama. I do have a purchasing degree but dislike the corporate world and I am have reached Reiki Master Teacher level but people here are too conservative for that. All I have done since Oct 2008 is pay, pay, pay and have not had any luck with earning money. I never imangined my luck to turn this way and it is taking a huge blow at my confidence as I am so disempowered without money. It's become so disasterous that I feel like lying back and saying "just take it all, my clothes, my car, my books, you may as well take every piece of junk i have left". I never thought of my things as junk and went on a long journey after a depression 12years ago to learn to love myself and I find I am doing those horrible self slander things to myself. I even lost my boyfriend of 1year to a trashy coloured alcoholic and drug addict this week...something I turned away from completely 10years ago and self healed. How do I get from this point of R20 to 3, 4, 5, 6, 100x more than R80000 and more if possible? I am not a stupid girl, I have just made some bad decisions, mistakes and am still going through the motions of recieving the lessons. How do I change my thinking and program my mind to making money and feeling confident about myself again? The boyfriend is history and I am thankful that I am experienced enough in the field of losing men to other women that I saw it coming just as it did. The ultimate betrayl to me and the thing that makes me walk away and never look back after my man has been tainted by another woman. 3 boyfriends in 9years and all 3 lost to other woman. So all I am interested in now is my life, my dreams and goal, and making so much money that I can really take part in life and feel like a worthy and important part of this universe contributing my God-given talents everyday. Where do I begin at nothing? how do I pull myself out of this whole?

Thank you for taking the time to read.

Warm regards,

Penelope

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Dear Penny, my interpertation of your situation is that your problems stem from a lack of meaningful employment. Is it an oversimplification on my part to suggest a relocation to a job market which is more favorable to your education and experience?

As for the boyfriend that glass is half full;

"I even lost my boyfriend of 1year to a trashy coloured alcoholic and drug addict this week ..."

Ask yourself this question, "what if I had married the guy?" That's why people spend time together before marriage, they are getting to know each other and that includes the commitment part. OK, he failed but you didn't. Worse yet, what if you had a child with this loser?

Look at the positive side girl, you got education, you got skills, you got good sense when it comes to men, hey you're not doing so bad after all. You've just got to move and find you a job. You go girl! 

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Thank you Gary, I do appreciate your advise. The job market in SA is mostly affirmative action. But I can relocate to Australia or England which I will seriously be looking into as soon as I get my financial situation sorted.

As for the ex, you're right. I am not sure why he changed, he held up a good act for about 8 months. But when the darkness shows up to suck someone in and they're willing to spiral down there to the pitfalls of life. It's best to let em go and learn what they have to.

Thanks so much.

Best wishes,

PENELOPE

Hi penelope,

Dont be disheartened. Start of your new life and forget your past.

Things will improve and you will see some hopes and light.

Cheers

 

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Dear penelope

first focus on work, take the next job offer to you no matter what it is as long as it is is ernest. do all the over time allow soak yourself in the improvement of yourself put God in your life, do not let any thing take your focus from your improvement  the change will include diet, exercise,and education.

I will suggest your to invest your time and mind elsewhere and you will forget all your past very quickly. I understand its difficult in the beginning but if you will try to remove your concentration from your past, thing will imporve and you can definitely give a new life to yourself.

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