My 40 year old sister has bi-polar disease--or so she believes. She has been to several psychiatrists and none seem to agree on this. Most think she suffers from extreme depression and anxiety. My family and her friends have also begun to talk with one another about her behavior as it definitely has changed. She takes a lot of pills--everything from anti-depressants, anti-anxiety, mood stabilizers, pain meds, migraine meds, premarin, and meds I've never heard of. They come from different doctors and she has multiple prescriptions at five different pharmacies. Her moods are all over the place--hostile, paranoid, angry, depressed, panicky--and she's never happy. Her latest "mantras" are "I will get them!" and "I'm going to bust them!" She can't hold a job for longer than a week or two and lies and steals constantly. To date, over the last year, she has stolen more than $200,000 from my mother and I using our checking accounts and credit cards and pawning jewelry she's stolen from us.
The baffling part is that when we try to talk with her, she looks us right in the eye and denies everything--even if we have proof in hand. Then she gets really irrate and rather violent (smashing things and on at least two occasions, pushing our mother very hard, which frightens me as my sister is twice the size of our mom).
Part of the problem is my mother and the fact she won't press charges--or hasn't been willing to until now. I called the police and was ready to prosecute her after my sister took $39,000 out of my bank account--and then said she didn't remember writing the checks-- but, once I'd decided to do it, my mother spent most of her time waiting for me to come home and then begging and bullying me ("You will no longer be part of this family" and worse) until I gave up and didn't go forward.
We did an intervention yesterday and my sister left the house--she lives with my mother--and then took an overdose of pills in the parking lot of a local psychiatric hospital. I believe she is a drug addict: I mean, her purse is loaded with pills and she keeps it joined to her hip and never lets go of it. It might also explain why she is going through so much money: She tells us she has no idea where the money is nor how she spent it when/if she finally admits she took it. Now, she says she is bi-polar and, therefore, can't be held accountable because she doesn't know what she's doing. Yet some of her actions have been very well planned out.
Sorry for the long story but wanted to provide some background. Does this sound like bi-polar disease and, if it does, are bi-polar patients truly that out of it and, thereby, not in control of their actions? If you know of this illness or have had it yourself or know someone who does, I would greatly appreciate any help you can provide. The stress on everyone--including her 10 year old son who she now wants nothing to do with--is taking a major toll.
I think what keeps us all hanging in there praying for a miracle is that my sister used to be the most wonderful person--kind, funny, a great mom and friend; just a great human being! But things started to change seven years ago and have progressively deteriorated and even my mother is at the point where she realizes this cannot go on. It would help a lot if we had any clues as to what we are up against and how "accountable" she truly is.