I had an affair for 5 months. i had serious ...

Yes, the hurt goes away but you have got to move on.  This happens with many affairs. If you were married to him, would you start thinking he was cheating on you when he is late coming home?  Breaking up is hard to do, but it’s something we all seem to go through at one time or another. Make a clean break because if you are still in love with him, and he doesn’t reciprocate the feelings, then you would continue to hurt.  You’d be wise to delete his name and number from your mobile phone.  Give yourself plenty of time to heal from this break-up. His on going confusion doesn’t have to be your on going problem. You don't want to wait around for someone who either doesn’t want to be with you or can’t make up his mind about who he wants to be with? You deserve better. Do something simple as going to a spa and have a massage to make yourself feel better.

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Hi,
No offence please but that's a very common story.... It's clear that you love him madly and you want him back but painfull as it be better move on and find someone (make sure he is single) who deserves you.... 
Cruel as it might sound but a new love is the best cure for a broken heart..... It might be hard for you to even think on a new love (at this stage) but that's the best "medicine" you can get..... 
In any case, don't even consider to return to him, even if he'll suggest.... it will only bring you to more heartbreaks and pains.... 
Best regards,

I am sorry , but what did you expect , when you decided to have an affair with a Married man ?   This happens all the time , very rarely do they leave their wives .  Most of the time they love their wives and are just looking for sex . Find yourself an AVAILABLE man and make a life with him .  

go and find a single fellow why be with a married man you are being selfish and self centered he is with his wife now get on with your own life

2 Thumbs up to my friends. Please let this be a lesson.  Don't get involved with a married man.  He could tell you a lot of BS not being happy with his wife.  He only wants variety.  If you provide it, then you are the loser in the end.

    There are so many available men out there who are single and unattached.  You just have to be patient to find him.

AMEN !  Dogbreeder, OronD & Alco ..... 2 thumbs up

There is an emotional tie that takes place whenever you're involved in sex with anyone.  Even if it's rape, the emotional tie is one of hatred, contempt, or any range of emotions.  Now, realistically, you should have known there was the very strong possibility it was never going to last.  He was cheating on his wife with you, so he has a cheating personality.  Did you think he would change that for you?  People who cheat with you will very likely cheat on you.  Now, here's the problem, you were cheating too by getting in a relationship with a married man.  So, it seems you both have the same character trait.  This is a recipe for disaster.  I previously had a wife who cheated on me, but I refused to respond in kind.  Beacuse I know that 2 wrongs do not make a right.  It's very hard to maintain the high ground when you feel robbed and hurt, but irregardless it's the best avenue of approach.  Find romance with a single guy, and rebuild your relationship.  And don't be too eager to involve yourself in sex with him.  That is unless you're ready for the emotional let down.  Make sure you love him and he loves you.  If he loves you he will wait.  If you give him sex up front, you'll never know if it's just sexual attraction or if he really cares about you.  And certainly do not trust the words coming out of his mouth.  Men will say anything to get you in bed.  I know, I'm a man.  I am above that now, but it took me years to get to this point.  And only my faith in God helped.