my partner has no sex drive. he is 5 years younger than me. I am not sure if the fact that he is taking blood thinners could be a reason for this. Sometimes I even wonder if he is gay. I love him, but I am starving for some affection!!! He tells me that it is not me, but I can't help but feel insecure about my weight gain in the last year. He used to not be able to keep his hands off of me. He is a great man and suppors and takes very good care of this family, but we have really bad communication and have virtually no sex life. At one point when he wanted me to be pregnant with his son he would grab me every chance he got. I feel so insecure. I could naked in front of him and nothing. We go out together. We spend time at home. Please help me to understand what is going on here.
I really don't think the blood thinners are the problem. I am in a similar situation as you (I'm married nearly 2 years and my husband barely touches me. I've gained signifcant weight since we met and I'm extremely insecure). We started seeing a marriage counselor a couple of months ago and while I was skeptical at first, it has helped in bettering our communication. Through counseling, my husband was able to articulate that my significant weight gain has "caused him to be less attracted to me." While this was hard for me at first to hear from him, I'm glad that he was finally able to tell me what was really on his mind and not hide anything from me. I've changed some of my ways to help our situation and he's working on changing as well. I think it's important that if you do seek out couples counseling, to not be afraid of what you may hear and really try to understand your partner's side of what's going on. I wish you all the best!
your not providing enough information here. did you get fat first or did he lose interest first? just by the way you started by saying that the fellow is five years younger as your opening statement shows that you are upset the he lost interest in you... but I don't think you have interest in him. I'm not sure your looking for a relationship with anyone.... it would seem that it is your vanity that has been broken more then anything. Vanity is no basis for love.
Hi, it sounds as if his hands were all over you before you had his-and-your son. I'm assuming that you only have one child, however I don't have a clue of his age. I'm wondering if he's 6 months or younger? Anyhow, my guess is that when the baby came along, it changed the entire dynamics of your household. Instead of it being just you and he, it soon changed to baby makes three, and you too, have changed as you were pregnant and perhaps gained a few pounds which is normal. But as your body changed, so did his.
"my partner has no sex drive. he is 5 years younger than me"
smallest violin in the world playing just for those who are projecting they're own issues into the question that answers itself. This person has a vanity issue and is not in love.
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