Posted by cal45 3 years ago In:

cal45
cal45 Asked:

Why not me/

I have been seeing this guy for almost 2 years he asked me to fix his computer so I did and that is when I discovered he is searching on line for a girl to date. He is unemployed and 48 years old. He is looking at sites like Lonelycheatingwives and asiagirls. I love him and he knows it, when I asked about it he said that is probably the only way he is going to meet someone. I was shocked and speechless. Should I talk to him about it or just leave?

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DB Lady
DB Lady Answered:

Hi,

    So you were surprised that he's looking online for other women.  I don't understand why you would be upset about it.  You said he is jobless. If he wanted to marry you, how will he be able to support the family?  Are you willing to support him?

   I think that you deserve someone who has a stable job.  Love is very important, but I think security and financial stability is also very important to consider in looking for a mate.

  With the bad economy right now, if I was in your shoes, I would not think of trying to have a long term relationship with him.  Find someone who has a job.

Take care.

Be honest and be true to yourself.
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OronD
OronD Answered:

Hi Cal45,
Your question really bothers me: "Should I talk to him about it or just leave ?"..... There is no question ! - You have to talk to him about it and find out what does it exactly mean.  If he doesn't provide you a good reasonable answer leave him.  And read carefully my dear friend's, DB Lady, answer (great answer, as she always does, gave her 2 thumbs up).
Best regards,

Love is the battery of life....
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geminigrl
geminigrl Answered:

Wait a minute cal45... I hate to even leave a follow up answer after DB Lady and OronD as they are very excellent at giving advice here at yedda... however can I just point out the sites you listed... Lonely cheating wifes... hello... that says ALOT... sounds like he has some comittment issues... not to mention morals... do you want to be in a relationship who is looking for other ppls wifes??? Cant think much about fidelity.... just a thought... or alot of thoughts (none good) good luck with that:))

It is what it is:)
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Daniel
Daniel Answered:

Hello cal45,

    I understand your distress with this situation. I appreciate the compassion of DB Lady, and the direct focus of OronD; also, the observations of geminigrl. I give each 2 thumbs up.

    I have a tenancy to look at things in a different way than most. My practice is based on inner awareness. So with that in mind, after the advice you have already been given, I believe you know what you should do. Your inner awareness is sharp and clear; but,intense emotions can cloud this inner knowledge. Having respect for yourself, in itself, will give you the answers you need in relation to this situation.

    You are a beautiful being, and should be treated accordingly. You deserve respect; and you must respect yourself.

                            With Compassion,

                                                     Daniel

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