My boyfriend is leaving to go to the air force ...

It sounds to me as if you are unofficially engaged, so if both of you are commited to this relationship, why not make it official before he leaves? Trust is always difficult but if you have no reason to distrust him, other than the distance between you, you need to overcome that. Look at it this way, if he's going to cheat, he doesn't have to go into the service to do that.

Regarding your comment (below)

"i trust him fully but i don't trust other girls"

this is a contradiction. If you trust him, what other girls do doesn't matter. He's the one making that decision, so it sounds as if you are safe on this.

Hi , You are right he did not take your feelings into consideration. He made a life changing decision that effects both of you without consulting you .  He doesn't value your opinion which is a lack of respect for you . He's planned your life for you without consulting you .  Communication , trust , fidelity and respect are the very foundations to a good strong healthy relationship .  Your relationship lacks communication , trust and respect , and we shall see on the fidelity . You are suppose to be partners in heart, body ,mind and soul . Your partner should never be the source of your pain . This is a decision that should have been made the two of you TOGETHER . I'm not so sure this man intends to continue the relationship with you , this appears to be a " Cut & Run " . His actions speak louder than his words .  But if I am wrong , I would be thinking twice about spending my life with a Man who showed such little respect and regard for me and my feelings... the woman he is suppose to cherish , value , protect and love .

Aboveangel2007, I completely agree with Equus.  This man did not consider your feelings at all.  As to the part about saving the house, that is a crock.  If he is gone, why would he even want the house?  I don't think he really expects you to wait for him.  He is doing what he wanted to do before he met you.  I suggest you kiss him goodbye.  I know it hurts like crazy, but you will get over him. 

Anna Sparky's Mom

Thanks for the invite Equus...Great answer btw.

Angel, you are the only person who can decide whether this guy is right for you or not.  My thought is that you have the cart before the horse.  If he wants you to stand by him and wait for him, he needs to ask you to marry him.  Once married, then of course you have every right to an opinion in matters that impact you.  Deciding on a military career is a big decision and one that affects both of you. 

I have been in your shoes where decisions were made prior to the actual marriage and my opinion was not considered in matters that directly affected me.  I know exactly how you feel.  Equus is correct in that this guy is not thinking about you and how you are affected by his decisions.

Hi, Equus, thanks for the invite.

Angel,

    I fully agree with Equus, Anna and Jada_lynne.  His decision to leave for the military is a life-changing one.  He should have talked to you about it.  You could have decided if you want to be married to a military man or not.  I also think that he does not respect  you at all.  If I were in your shoes I would leave and find someone who considers your feelings.  Save yourself from more headaches and heartaches.  Just say goodbye to him charge it to experience.  There are a lot of nicer men out there.

Take care.

By the way, thumbs up to Equus, Anna and Jada_lynne.

Thumb Up ,  Anna , Jada_Lynne and DB Lady !

Ladies please, I don't mean to interrupt all the back patting going on here but angel made a comment you seem to have overlooked;

"i love him with everything i have."

Angel, you seem to have one major problem and that is his not consulting you prior to joining the service and please understand, I'm not defending his decision, this was a mistake! I don't go to the golf course without consulting my wife, so he gets no slack from me on this.

 However, considering your comment (above) don't you think it's worth an attempt to resolve this before terminating the relationship? If these other ladies are correct, and he's using this as an excuse to end your relationship you'll know it, and if not, there's a possibility you can work things out. Here's a suggestion from Ms. Jada which has real merit;

"If he wants you to stand by him and wait for him, he needs to ask you to marry him."

angel also wrote;

"i trust him fully but i don't trust other girls. i have faith that he wont cheat on me.."

I like this comment because it sounds as if you not only love this guy but you trust him also. Cheating is an individual thing and has nothing to do with geograpgy. I once worked in an office with a married couple where the wife was having an affair with a co-worker in the same office. All three desks were within 30 feet of each other. I've known and worked with others who have traveled the world and never considered cheating.

My advice, talk to the guy angel, you may want to give this a chance.