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He says he likes me but he isn't ready for a ...

He says he likes me but he isn't ready for a relationship or to make a commitment,  he wants to be friends (with sex) because he has only been divorced 8 months.  What do I do just play along or what?

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OronD
OronD Answered:

Hi,


It's a very delicate situation.  On one hand you have to realize that he is only after 8 months of the devorse.  On the other hand what he is offering you is really next to an insult.  In that case I would suggest that you give him some time, watch carefully how this relation is developing.  If it develops in the right direction you'll reach a point that you'll have to discuss it, in depth, with him.  If you see that it doesn't develope or goes in a wrong direction then leave him as soon as you can.....  (and better find someone who is worth you).
I wish you the best of luck,
Love is the battery of life....
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rubberguy
rubberguy Answered:

Real friends don't have sex. People who have strong moral base don't have sex before marriage. You have control over your moral base and you are the one who has to answer for any deviations. Play along is childish. This is a time you must answer your own question.

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MuadDib Kal
MuadDib Kal Answered:

hi cal45, do you really like him? if his divorce is true, yes you will have to give him some time. but be mindful and use protection always until you are certain. talk to him in another 2 months and firmly ask him where the relationship with you is going then. it should be more than enough time for him to know what he wants. if the answer is no, be strong. move on.

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angelkiss
angelkiss Answered:

hmmm,he sounds like a player to me!he is using you,for his own enjoyment!he is selfish,and thinks only about himself!he just wants sex,but no commitment.....that would put up a red flag for me!

Do you think that YOU deserve this treatment?If he's not ready for a relationship,then he's not ready for sex either!!

Fool me once, shame on you!! Fool me twice,shame on me!
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relationshipGuru
relationshipGuru Answered:

Unfortunately, I think this guy is just looking for some action. I would suggest that if you really like him, try to keep a friendship (with no sex) going with him. If he is really interested in you, he will hang around but if it's just sex he's looking for, he'll go looking for someone else, which in turn will show you that he was not really the guy for you.

Don't underestimate what you deserve. No woman deserves to be treated like an object. Playing along is not only childish but will also end up crushing your heart.

A healthy relationship starts with trust and honesty and a big warm genuine smile.
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mastershark02
mastershark02 Answered:

It seems to be plain and simple here.He just wants to play the field.He has been tied down too long and has his own issues to deal with.your just a stepping stone in his life.You can contact via the link below if you really need to talk about this.I am a personal adviser and can help you through this underlying  issue your having.My name is John

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puppetking
puppetking Answered:

He's given yu an honest answer...divorced thus no more commitment...wants sex.... do you want the sex? if so, then play along... otherwise he's just using you for sex and you need to jump ship!!!

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Glyttch
Glyttch Answered:

Ever hear the phrase "why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free?"  If you're having sex with him what possible reason could he have for moving to the next level of the relationship.  Most people don't have sex with their friends.  I've had sex with a few of my female friends when neither of us had been dating anyone for a while, but your situation is different.  If he wants in your pants he needs to date you, if he wants to be just friends keep your zipper up (or your skirt down, whatever.)

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