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when i was 12, i moved to a new town, and ...

when i was 12, i moved to a new town, and although i made new friends easily, i felt very sad. no one noticed, but i would cry hard a few times a week in my room. i never sought help, found it diffictuly to talk to my family about this,. After I entered highschool, i wasnt as sad once I found a good group of friends. However, I still hung on to that sadness, and loneliness and find myself crying hard a lot. Sometimes I experience weeks or months of a lack of interest in anything, which can be characterized as lazyness by outsiders. I have trouble waking up, and I need to sleep for 12 hours or else I still feel tired. However, I don't think I'm currently depressed because I enjoy eating, watching tv, and spending time with friends. I am 22, and am going into a college graduate program. I currently have a part-time job in retail and I can perform duties just fine. But when I get a little upset, I still tend to cry a lot. Is this feeling of perpetual sadness just a part of my personality, or is this something that can be treated?

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Sammi BB Answered:

I would really really recommend to you going to talk to a therapist/phsychologist. Not because there is anything wrong with you, but rather because it's just so theraputic to have someone totally unbiased to talk to. It sounds to me like you have a lot of repressed feelings. You never felt you could talk to your family when you moved, so all of those feelings are still deep inside. A therapist can give you the opportunity to talk about them and let them out. I promise you that you will feel 100 times better after. I have seen someone for years. I only go when I feel I need someone to talk to and to ask advice, but it has been a huge help in my life.

Posted 3 years ago

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cujoside Answered:

To be completely honest, I am not a psychiatrist, but I have had similar experiences and witnessed others with the same problem. No, it has nothing to do with your personality, it sounds like your tears have become a place of comfort. When you were younger experiencing this loneliness, your adaptive traits absorbed this feeling and it may be weird but it's become some sort of habit. All habits are not good, nor are they all bad, but in order to break yourself from these "tears of comfort," you must accept and realize that you do not want that to remain a habit and you do not want to feel comfort there any longer. Once you can get yourself to beleiving that and truly know that and want that for yourself, you will all of a sudden notice how less often you go to that unwanted place of comfort and hopefully stop going there at all or ever again.