So, I am a bit of perfectionist and I like things a certain way around the house. I have been living with my boyfriend of 2.3 years for nine months now and I have come to realize and accept that he isn?t as neat as me. He?s also gotten lazy, not just in helping with chores, but also in the bedroom. I?ve expressed some discontent, but I still end up initiating sex and I am usually on top?doing all of the work. I?ve tried to spice things up even. I asked him if he just wasn?t into having sex with me, but he insisted that he loves having sex with me. Here?s where it gets, well, for lack of a better phrase?. A little fucked up. We have a large Northern facing window that has a huge set of blinds on it. In order to keep them from sagging you have to pull individual strings to make them straight at the top when they are pulled up. It?s silly I know, but I prefer them that way. They are always open to let light in, and the sun doesn?t shine directly in the window and the apartment stays cool? the only reason they would be shut is for privacy. My boyfriend?s computer is next to the window, which is what he uses as his ?sexual outlet?. So, basically?..when I come home from work and the blinds are in disarray?..I know what he was up to. I understand that it is something that guys do and I can accept that. However, when we go weeks at a time without sex and he jerks it every time I leave the house it kind of pisses me off! I know if I tell him that I know when he does it he will be pissed. AND my compulsive perfectionism keeps me fixing the blinds?.and the vicious cycle continues. What do I do? I feel undesirable and I?m tired of being the only one to take action when it comes to our love life.
