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i m in luv with a man who has faced a lot of problems in life,and he luvs me more than anything in this world.i am an engineer and he has no such degrees.this is the reason why my parents are against ...

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Nabila, I understand where you parents stand. I believe, from your name, that you are Middle Eastern, and so am I. However, I don't agree with parents controlling their children's lives and choices. At the same time, it is always good to listen to them. Sometimes they are right when they disagree with what their children choose.

I'm not trying to judge your love, but you really need to "think" about it. Think what makes you love your boyfriend and what makes him love you. Is it that he experienced a lot of problems in his life and he finds some relief in you? If so, this is not true love. You need to think about his history and how if affects his personality, his love for you and your relationship together. Love is not all about emotions, because emotions come and go. Love that is built only on emotions dies when it faces some problems in marriage and what marital life involves of commitments, disappointments and routine.

You need to think honestly and objectively whether your boyfriend is better than you in other things apart from the degree and job. If yes, does he see this? If not, he will feel inferior to you, thus jealous, thus most probably aggressive.

After thinking about your whole relationship objectively, if you believe that this is true love that will lead to successful happy marriage, then you do need to face your parents with loving assertiveness. Being your parents does not give them the right to control your life when you are an adult! You have the right to make your own choices.

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nabila firdous Thinks this answer is Helpful:

thank you very much for your help.i never thought that any one in this world is free 2 listen and understand my problem.i really don't know what i'll do....i hav no questions about wther his love is true or not because i feel that love is something which can't b explained,we can only feel it.i hav talked to my father but according to him money is more important,he begged infront of me to 4get myself,being a daughter i can't see my father like this.he has arranged my marriage somewhere else.i know that the man with whom i m in luv is not so much educated but the things n the qualities which he has is more than enough 2 keep me hppy n satisfied 4 rest of my life.he says that this is ur father's decision.wait 4 God's decision.