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I am becoming an angry mum. I am sad & angry more ...

I am becoming an angry mum. I am sad & angry more times than not. I am not seeing my family in a nice way. I feel depressed that the mundane life I am in is going on the same day after day after day, with me feeling like I have to yell & scream at the kids (ages 6, 4, 3) nobody especially my husband has no idea the stress I am under. I look after kids all day, run an online business & work everyother night from 6pm to 11pm as a theatre nurse. After mentioning to him (I mean arguing with him) his response is always of him resigning to the fact that I am the only one who can do what I do because he needs to work all day. So no help from him..I don't feel the same towards him either. Everyone in our house seems to sail through life unaffected, because I am the only one doing & screwing my head up in the process. Do I need calming drugs? Am I over reacting? Should we separate? Is there anything I should do to stop my head going crazy? I need help I know this much?

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The Wisest Mom Answered:

Greetings Mum: It sounds as if you have much happening in your world. I would start with your family physician to determine if depression or anxiety is present, and how he/she would recommend handling it? You mentioned your life being "mundane." I realize you've little time, but is there any time you could set aside to do something you enjoy doing?

I would hope your Husband would enlist some help for you in your home as well.

I noticed you listed your question under the topic of psychology, perhaps a therapist would be another good resource in addition to your family physician?

There is help and hope, we never know what tomorrow has in store for any of us. Hang in there!

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jkgrandma Answered:

You sound perfectly normal, to me.

Your life is exceptionally full and you're frustrated that it often seems as though you're the only one making any extra effort.

Now. The Wisest Mom already gave you good suggestions regarding seeing your doctor to rule out any medical causes of the feelings you're having as well as possibly making an appointment with a therapist.

I will add that at the ages of 3, 4 and 6 your children are not too little to help take care of the household chores.

I will grant that the chores may not be done to your exact specifications, and you will most likely have to expend some time and energy in supervision (at least in the beginning); but there is no time like the present to teach them that they are not the center of the universe and the household does not run without help.

I suggest you make a chore jar for each child.

Write (or use simple pictures) one chore on each slip of paper and put all the slips in the jar. Each day, each child is expected to pull at least one chore slip out of his or her jar and complete the task thereon.

Chores can range from "Put your dirty clothes in the hamper" to "Pick up your toys" or "Fold all the clean towels and put them away on the bathroom shelf."

You decide.

If you wish, you can make completion of the chores contingent upon receipt of an allowance or other reward (adding the carrot to the proverbial stick).

Good luck - and try to remember that you are not alone; it just seems that way right now. Keep asking for help any time you need it - someone's always here to listen!

Posted 3 years ago
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