When do you stop hating your mother for poor parenting by allowing physical, mental, emotional and sexual abuse by her, sibling and relatives?
It is always recommended to find a therapist to talk about your situation. When you are able to understand your parent or if you can never condone what they did, when you can forgive them, or try to leave it behind you and be strong and healthy -- in spite of the poor beginning, you may stop hating.
When you understand that some of the strongest people also had terrible situations in their childhood but overcame it...then you may start to have confidence, and know that it is who you are now, and how you treat people and handle life's problems now that make you a healthy adult. Therapy can really help you. And if you don't like one therapist, keep trying, until you find one who helps you.
I have always tried to understand them, their childhoor, envirerment and parents. Then they do other things to offend me and it seems like it will never ends no matter how many bounderies I put up. All this has affect me in friendships and people. I 'am losing hope in all society.
I have seen several therapist. They just want to perscribe medication and repress things. I do not find that healthy. I want to deal with the problems it make me feel human and that I exist.
That is hard. Is it possible that you have not found the therapist who is right for you?