My wife refuses to be intimate with me. She says she loves me, but does not "feel" love for me. She has had an affair in the last 3 years, that lasted about 2 years. We have been to counseling and I have made major changes in myself to benefit our marriage and be present for her. But she continues to push me away and is not present for me. Why is this happening? I don't understand how one can say they love you, but not "feel" love for that person?
Let me add that we have 2 kids together.