I don't think we should judge people that quickly. I've known messy people who are very good people, sometimes people have other priorities
It can be even more unhealthy to be a neat freak. I believe OCD or obsessive compulsive disorders with germ phobias, etc. are more psychologically disabling than living in clutter, messes, etc. Many happy creative people live messy cluttered lives and are very fulfilled, well adjusted individuals. It is pretty much accepted that Type b personality people are happier than type As. Of course there are degrees of clutter and pack rat syndrome is a disorder in itself. These people usually have experienced extreme lack or poverty in their lives. They are phobic in their fear of throwing things away and fear they may need them later.
OK I didn't ask what was the profile indicated by BUSY people, I asked specifically MESSY. I have a hard time believing that MESS is an understandable thing when it is used to stifle your mates function...to throw him off balance and to isolate him from people who want to associate with him, but can not because his clutter doesn't allow it. By the way, I am talking about people who are not to busy to play competitive guitar hero online...people in their 30s
I agree, but THAT is not the issue here. I am asking about and unhealthy clutter used to stifle a partner so that he can be alienated from his family and friends who would like a place to visit him. This person bought a new home and his girlfriend gets pissed if anyone tries to clean because she is afraid that when she is out of town, he might have someone over who might converse with him, giving him a different perspective than her own. She is keeping him from installing a hardwood floor, for example, that has been in his garage for 6 months because she is trying to talk him into buying a house with her far away. She is pissed because he bought this home under his own name and will not marry her or allow her to get pregnant before she finishes school, since he is supporting her through school. The clutter is used to control. So what I am really asking is how she can be exposed.
Linda, Now you are asking an entirely different question than your original one. It seems to me you had a hidden agenda and expected the reader to be a psychic and know what it was. But now you want to know how to expose someone for having devious motives behind their cluttering behaviors? Do I have that right? I assume you want to expose her to her boyfriend. I just have to say that your motives sound questionable, either you are jealous of or dislike this woman, and wish to break her and her boyfriend up? I think your time would be better spend focusing on your own life. I guarantee you this man knows what is going on. And I have never heard of anyone using clutter to control in this manner. I really doubt that is what is going on. You need to accept that this guy is exactly where he wants to be at this time in his life or he wouldn't be there. He is an adult isn't he? Could it be that you are the one trying to do the controlling?
I honestly would like to know the general profile of messy people. That was my question in order to get an answer, no hidden agenda or I would not expose myself to a lot of people for a lot of types of views. Certainly not to be analyzed for asking a question. Now am I ever going to get an answer from you or are you just going to keep playing emotional calisthenics with me? By the way, are you a slob? It seems that the question struck a nerve with you.
No, Linda, I am not a slob. I just find your thought process strange on this one. I just don't get why you are trying to get so negatively involved in these peoples's lives. It just all sounds like manipulation to me. So I can't give you the answer I think you are looking for - that this woman is a nut case. Being messy doesn't qualify someone for a profile or psychological disorder label. Anyway I am out of here - maybe someone smarter than me will respond soon. Good luck.
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