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here is the deal . if you are going to look at my question the please answer it.

i am 18 and i amgoing to have my first baby. i am currently 7 months pregnant and i am also single. my boyfriend just broke up withme about 2 weeks ago. and ever since then he has been out with other women or w/e and enjoying himself while i am stuck being depressed and feeling all alone.

i just do not understand why my man had to dump me while h eknows i am carryin his child. what would cause a man to do this. ! how do i cope with the fact that i am more than likely going to have to raise this lil baby on my own .. please help . i need some advice on what to do .. should i just orget bout him n move on or just wait for himto come back to me.

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toria, a guy who impregmates a girl and then leaves and dates other girls is not a good sign of character and stability. You didn't give his age but even if this pregnancy was strictly a product of hormones, anything less than him seeing you through this and then assuming parential responsibility should be unacceptable to you. I can only imagine how resentful and hurt you must feel, being pregnant and alone while he's out running around having a good time. My advice, focus on the care and well being of the baby and don't think about, or hope this guy is going to come back to you. From what you've written my opinion is that you're going to be better off without him. 

I also suggest letting him know that you expect him to assume some form of parential responsibility (read this to mean child support) because that gets the immediate attention of most guys.  

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First of all stop calling him your man , his actions prove he is not your man he's walked away from you and his unborn child . He is what I call nothing more than a sperm donor , not a good role model for a child . Your number one concern is the beautiful child you are about to bring in to the world . Every decision you make needs to be what is best for your child .  You cannot force him to be a Father , but you can hold him accountable and force him to take financial responsibility for his Child .  You are about to have one of the most beautiful precious things in life , treat him/her as such .  Your child is your number one top priority .  I wish you luck and a healthy Baby .  I also answered your other question , will remind you again ... go see your Doctor .

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Great answers to your question. I could not add more about  "him". It's hard to get dumped, let alone at seven months pregnant. You definatly need all the emotional help you can get. Are you close to your parents, girlfriends? If you, lean on them as much as you can. You may not believe it right now, but this too shall pass.  When you hold your baby in your arms everything you are going through will seem like a dull memory. Keep yourself busy preparing for the baby's arrival.  Equus and gary gave you sound advise. Don't let this guy take away from your pregnancy. Start a journal for your child. Direct your thoughts and energy into your relationship with the baby. You cannot know what the future holds for the babie's father, but you have absolute control over your pregnancy and the arrival of your little one. Whatever is going to happen between you and the father will be your decision, so relax and enjoy the last part of this miracle of birth.

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Great answers, all.

I will add that you must IMMEDIATELY seek legal advice and file papers with court to establish paternity as well as custody and visitation Orders.

Do NOT wait to do this until after the baby is born. The paperwork will ask for the baby's name, age and sex but all you will do is put 'unborn child' and the due date.

Again, an attorney can advise you as to how best to proceed (and you can then do the paperwork yourself, or pay a legal document preparing service to assist you).

Contact your state's Bar Association for a referral to an experienced Family Law attorney in your area.

Good luck.

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you don't need a man to raise your child sweet heart. As long as you have a loving family? mother, father, brother or sister and cousins? You have the help you need. Don't be dependent on a man when he proberly won't know what to do at all anyway. Forget him unless he wants to be in the childs life you should be fine on your own.

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