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I've caught my husband watching porn and that just frustrates me and hurts me. When caught he always says he's sorry but then it happens again. Any input?

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My husband enjoys porn also.......I can't say it's a mans thing.......Because I enjoy watching it also.......My husband and I both get stimulated by it.........

Sorry, but I can't look at it as a bad thing.........Only that it is something that bothers you.........

Either try to search within yourself to find out why it upsets you...Or try discussing this with your husband... Don't argue, just allow him to know why it is upsetting you....Let him know that this is really hurting you...Give him a reason........... 

  

Dont let it get to you, boys will be boys...nothing wrong with porn can be very fun!! If you are open and willing to let down certain guards.

I can understand that your husbands behaviour may upset you. I expect you may be feeling let down, that he prefers those images to you and that somehow you dont measure up to what turns him on in a woman. However, all that said, Providing he isnt going any further than viewing the images, there shouldnt be a problem.

That is only my perspective, as if it happened to me (and it has).

To some men im sure looking at those images, is a bit of escapism and a bit alternative. If you are feeling threatened by him doing this, maybe you and he should sit down and discuss what it is he gets from looking at the images. You need to be honest and tell him how you feel. I suspect you feel insecure and i also suspect you and he dont communicate your feelings to each other in an open and honest way.  Im sure he doesnt want to hurt you, which is why he tries to hide them from you. Good luck. Hope this is a little bit of help

okay even though im young doesnt mean i cant give advice.you dont have to follow it but it is my reply/solution.try talking it over with him and say like hey honey i dont appreciate you watching that and if he says sorry tell him he has to mean sorry cuz you can say it all you want but you have to mean it.thats my advice to you and tell me what you think of it please!

I disagree with the others response. I know EXACTLY how you feel.  My boyfriend did the same.  Says he didn't realize how much it hurt me but kept on doing it again and again. We've talked about this numerous times. Pornography bothered me so much. You either accept it or you don't.  I don't believe you should try to accept this behavior.  You won't be happy. I also wouldn't try to participate in this behavior because that's not who you are. I  believe if men really love the person they're with, they would give it up.  And another thing that was pissing me off was the e-mails we were recieving almost every other day from porn sites and other links. I wish you the best with this.........I feel for you.

My husband and i went through the same thing.  At first i thought it was just a once in a while thing. But i would find more and more p orn on the computer. It got to the point where  he would be sitting and watching porn for hours and hours. He would lie to me and claim that he wasnt porn surfing but yet i would find it. It finally got to the point where i left. I know exactly where you are coming from. How often does he look at p orn? Does he cover his activity up? He might be addicted. I wish i knew exactly what to say but with every case its  different. Just keep talking about it. Keep the lines of communication open. I hope this helps.

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