As a parent, when was the last time you sat down and actually had a conversation with your child one on one?
I just had a very in-depth convo with my middle son 2 days ago. He's joining the Navy, so you can guess what we talked about . Of my 3 sons, he and I have always been closer in the way of talking together, everything from his friends, his problems and decisions, politics and religion (politics we sort of agree on, which makes for some lively debates, religion we are pretty close on). We can literally talk for hours. We both are bipolar and have clinical depression, so we share experiences and "what works" or "what doesn't work" stories.
My youngest son is a "man of few words". Once in a while we sit down for a convo, but our styles are very different. Where I like to "beat a dead horse' as he'd say, he's very quick, the less words the better, he gets frustrated with my style (which he tells me, and it's a help for me cause I do like to run on, i.e., this post!)
My oldest and I used to talk a lot, like with my middle son, but he's married, has a house and a new job, and many things he does that takes up his time. We have very different opinions on almost everything, so discussions(arguments) can happen. So don't talk as much Mw/him.
You asked a wonderful question that all parents should think about seriously. Just curious, when did you last have a sit- down with your child/Oren? (I'm assuming you're a parent.)
We(her Father and I) live on the same property as our eldest daughter, in our own house, in the country. She has been a career woman since before her children were born, now she is a single Mom,( by divorce another story).One day after her divorce we sat down and had a heart to heart and when we were done, she said OMG , you are my new best friend. Funny how sometimes your children don't see you as part of the human race, with needs,desires etc.since then we have had some real "GF" discussions, she was amazed what I knew and had never really discussed. I am a writer check out just a sample of my writings..please leave comments: kjforce.wordpress.com
I love your mom/daughter story. Like they say "The older I get, the smarter my parents get. It's true, tho - sometimes good communication makes our kids realize we're just human, too. I'll check out your stories - I'm an "all the time" reader.
Kj Force, just read some from your site! Awesome! Could'nt help commenting, hope you don't mind. I wish I had half your talent - I've always wanted to write. Will be reading more, hope you don't mind a lot of comments - you pick the most interesting topics. You've definitely got a new fan, thanks for including your website! Sorry 'bout the typing - broken wrist - hunt & peck for a while :-(