Originated From

Parent's divorce

My parents got a really ugly divorce and it has affected me un a big way. I feel resentfull thowards my dad and I don?t trust men anymore because i feel ill get hurt like my mom. Im 19 and i?ve never been in a relationship because of that. I get really depressed at times and it has started to reflect on my studies. How can I make this stop affecting my personal life?

Liked this question? Tell your friends about it

3 Answers

Order by
Oldest to Newest
Newest to Oldest

Please see a Mental Health Counselor or therapist.  You need to talk about it, if only for a while.  If you do not have insurance to cover your visits, then join a support group. 

When a person goes through a tragic experience, it is normal to feel resentful, hurt, etc.  So don't be hard on yourself.  Allow yourself to grieve. Than after the grieving, continue to take small steps in leaving the past behind you and start looking forward.   

"Taken from the movie "Titanic" "A woman dies with many secrets in her heart"

Repeat after me.  " I AM NOT MY PARENTS"


     " IT'S NOT HIS FUALT. It's not her fualt. Shit happens, and it takes two to tango. "




      " I  AM NOT MY PARENTS "

          " I AM NOT MY PARENTS "

               " I AM NOT MY PARENTS "


 Repeat as nesisary

Hay. You think I'm crazy? You should hear the voices in my head. Those people have issues.

I’m so sorry what you are going through. During my time with Focus on the Family,  I’ve heard from quite a few young people who have faced similar challenges after their parents divorced, and I want to assure you that it’s natural to be confused – and even frustrated – about this matter. 

 I’m pleased to be able to share a few thoughts with you: The first think you need to know is that – you aren’t responsible for your parents’ divorce or the complex decisions you’re facing now. Still, it’s important to remember that God knows what you are going through, and He has promised to never leave you. He hurts when you hurt, and He wants to be your source of comfort, strength, and guidance during this stressful time.  In addition, it would be a good idea for you to approach a caring friend.  If there isn’t anyone nearby you feel comfortable talking to, I’d like to invite you to call and speak with one of their licensed counselors.  All of them are committed therapists and very understanding people, who are there to listen, answer questions, etc;  this service is free.  Their telephone number is 1-855-771-HELP (4357), and their office is open from 6:00 A.M. to 8:00 P.M. (MT) Monday through Friday.  

Related Questions

Other people asked questions on similar topics, check out the answers they received:

Asked: Relationship in families

what relationship is my grandmother's son's daughter to me?

Asked: Why Family Physicians Are Different From Other ...

Why Family Physicians Are Different From Other Docs?

Asked: Why do girls always want to be in relationships?

why do girls always want to be in relationships?

Be The First To Answer

Other people asked questions on various topics, and are still waiting for answer. Would be great if you can take a sec and answer them

Ask a Question... We'll forward it to people who know

More Questions

How can I get a simple no fault divorce in FL myself

You can pull up forms on your computer or you can go to your library and ask where to get them, fill them out, and if your mate approves your divorced.

What are the divorce laws in cuba, a cuban woman and a canadian male

If the man wants out of it and he sponsered her he must get out now, cos she will take him for everything. He should report it to the Canadian authorites so that she cannot drain him of everything.

In a military divorce who is ultimately ...

The Survivor Benefit Plan is a Government-backed life insurance program in addition to Serviceman's Group Life Insurance (SGLI). In 2007, SBP superseded SGLI as the benefit was so much greater and the cost was commensurately less. Like all insurance, there are premiums, although enlisted grades 1 ...

Why should parents be given joint custody?

Unless there is some reason for NOT awarding joint custody - such as being un-fit - or homeless - or unemployed - or an alcoholic - or a druggie - or abusive, etc. then joint custody is awarded so each parent shares in the responsibilty of raising the child - & so the child would have as stable as ...