Need some help

-  hope this helps some-

Ah kel, you're just too nice a girl to be so depressed. The weather will change so it sounds like your real problem is your son and the best way to deal with that is to talk about it. Assuming you haven't done so already, why not say a few things about your problems with him and see if this bunch of amateur shrinks can give you some insights. At the very least one of us may say something intesting or amusing and your whole day may change.

Oh my God, that is beautiful George!!!!, and Clark, that's the first laugh i had in a couple days and it felt good. You know Gary, it's so hard for me to discuss my problems. I usually think if I don't take it all too seriously, problems seem to work themselves out. It's funny you said you guys may say something amusing, because I really follow alot of the answers you guys post. Especially in this funk I'm in. I either say "ah, now there's some logic kelly", which helps me think logically about my own problems or i get a good laugh. As far as my son is concerned, he's a great guy but in this economic crisis he has really gotton off track. Borrowing money from everyone he knows, (has lots of friends) and playing the "rob Peter to pay Paul" game. Against my better judgement, I am now part of circle of debts. It does bother me, (you know, I'm the mom syndrome and I should be first on his list) but this is another of life's lessons that will come back to bite him sooner or later. In this funk though, I quess I'm felling sorry for myself. Boo Hoo right? LOL (because I got bit) He is a twin and all I hear from his brother is I TOLD YOU! LOL He did too. But I thought I'm his mom and tryed to help him out and now i'm on the list of people that he does'nt answer phone calls because he owes them money. To be honest, I don't really care about the money, it's the way he's acting that really bothers me.

George, I just read your post and I understand you like to be demoralized and etc, etc but you didn't say anything about your ego so how's this; we each sent a note to Ms. K and you received the first sentence and a half in response which is 23 words by actual count. Now, in response to my post suggesting we discuss her situation ol gar got 19 full sentences (that's 285 words) plus two more partial sentences, one with 5 words and the other with 10. Hey man, that makes the score 300 for ol gar and 23 for George and I'm not even saying anything about Clark, whom she also mentioned in your 23 words. If we were playing golf you'd be in hog heaven but in a contest for a woman's attention you are running 17th in a 2 man race. OK, now that you understand that I'm getting Kelly's attention here (by the way, on a % basis I've got you by 93% to 7%) you're probably going to come up with another song. That SNOT fair (oh I couldn't resist) because I'm at work and don't have access to my 40 million Napster song collection. But be warned, when I get home I can compete on that level also, so I'm not conceeding the song competition.

On a serious note Kelly, (am I saying all that drivel above was not meant to be serious HA) you are a mom and the most natural instinct is for mom's to defend their kids. If you don't believe me I'll send you my mom's number. She'd tell you that she's had 51 years of practice and still counting. If your son has good health and does not have a substance abuse problem believe me when I say it could be a lot worse. Give him all the support you can without becoming an enabler, which is one of the great words I've learned over the past few years. Another good word is maturity. There's no guarentee it's a solution but sometimes they just take longer to grow up and learn responsibility.

I'll write more later Kel, right now my mom is calling.  

Kelly,

Bring your gardening, and painting inside.  My daughter starts plants indoors, and has a beautiful display of indoor plants.  She also paints indoors.

Be really careful with your depression worsening since you are on an antidepressant.  Ironically, antidepressants often times worsen depression to the point of becoming suicidal.  Please, inform your physician of your worsening symptoms so he may make an adjustment in your medication if needed.  Many over-the-counter and prescription medications interfere with antidepressants. 

If you have had any thoughts of hurting yourself, this is a huge redflag.  Even if you have no thoughts like this...if you have worsening sadness...tell your physician who prescribed the antidepressant.  I know it is the holiday, but they have beepers...and believe me, they get a lot of calls on the weekends/holidays.  Your problem may not be something you just "snap" out of.  It may take some time...try not to get discouraged.  Also, don't stop your medication because of what I said.  It can be dangerous to abruptly stop antidepressants.

(Kuddo's to you George)

Julie

It's not the load that breaks you down, it's the way you carry it. -- Lena Horne

By George you've got me with this one. I can't compete with you on this level but I hope we were able to brighten Kelly's day with a little (some might even say very little) humor.

Thanks George and I wish you the same. LOL, I hope she enjoyed it also but she may sitting there asking herself "how did I get into this anyway". On another subject, I've got an outrageously funny Alan King (strictly "G" rated) video I considered sending but I'm not sure how Yedda folks feel about getting a file from someone they really don't know. Since you've been on Yedda for quite a while do you have an opinion on this?

Thank you for your invitation to Snotsville. Is that like a date LOL  Don't tell Gary.