Need advice about teenage boys !

I have one son who is 13, he's your typical, smart mouth, thinks all adults have no idea what it's like to be young. But he is a good kid. My question is, I snoop on his Myspace page (i have the password) and I think he really likes this girl. Should I tell him I know they are comunicating ? Is it OK for a teenage boy to not tell me these things ? I never thought raising a boy would be this difficult !  I assumed girls were the tough ones !!! 

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First question is, why are you snooping? If you did this with the Federal Mail, you'd be in big trouble. 

However, as a stay at home father with a daughter and a son, the son is MUCH easier. In general, boys are easier in most situations than are girls. 

There's no reason you should have any objection to the son having contact with a girl, it's natural, it's part of life and it's going to happen no matter what you do. 

I would suggest, however, that it's time that the boy know the facts of life and the responsibility a MAN bears when he has contact with a woman/girl. 

Your job is to teach your child "right" behavior, not to give him propaganda or to terrorize him, nor is it to snoop unless you have permission or a TRUE probably cause that something wrong is being done. 

While I know ALL the details for my kids' emails and various other online activities (they GIVE them to me for safekeeping) they KNOW that I will NOT, barring dire emergency or totally out of hand behavior, ever - EVER - snoop in their mail and websites. 

One learns trust by being trusted. One EARNS trust (Mom) by TrustING. 

GIVE a man a fish and you feed him for a day. TEACH a man to fish and you feed him for a lifetime. SADLY, most fishermen are afraid to touch the worm.

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Sandy-

If things stay online then I see no problem. If you do not spend time talking and listening to him, then you  very much need to start cultivating this habit.

JayR

Gratitude as a discipline involves a conscious choice.....* Victims of circumstance owe it to fate. Victims of choice owe it to themselves.*One of the widest gaps in human experience is the gap between what we say we want to be and our willingness to discipline ourselves to get there.

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