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Need advice about teenage boys !

I have one son who is 13, he's your typical, smart mouth, thinks all adults have no idea what it's like to be young. But he is a good kid. My question is, I snoop on his Myspace page (i have the password) and I think he really likes this girl. Should I tell him I know they are comunicating ? Is it OK for a teenage boy to not tell me these things ? I never thought raising a boy would be this difficult !  I assumed girls were the tough ones !!! 

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geoffbeneze
geoffbeneze Answered:

First question is, why are you snooping? If you did this with the Federal Mail, you'd be in big trouble. 

However, as a stay at home father with a daughter and a son, the son is MUCH easier. In general, boys are easier in most situations than are girls. 

There's no reason you should have any objection to the son having contact with a girl, it's natural, it's part of life and it's going to happen no matter what you do. 

I would suggest, however, that it's time that the boy know the facts of life and the responsibility a MAN bears when he has contact with a woman/girl. 

Your job is to teach your child "right" behavior, not to give him propaganda or to terrorize him, nor is it to snoop unless you have permission or a TRUE probably cause that something wrong is being done. 

While I know ALL the details for my kids' emails and various other online activities (they GIVE them to me for safekeeping) they KNOW that I will NOT, barring dire emergency or totally out of hand behavior, ever - EVER - snoop in their mail and websites. 

One learns trust by being trusted. One EARNS trust (Mom) by TrustING. 

GIVE a man a fish and you feed him for a day. TEACH a man to fish and you feed him for a lifetime. SADLY, most fishermen are afraid to touch the worm.
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Ol' Yeddar
Ol' Yeddar Answered:

Sandy-

If things stay online then I see no problem. If you do not spend time talking and listening to him, then you  very much need to start cultivating this habit.

JayR

Keep close to Nature's heart... climb a mountain or spend a week in the woods. Wash your spirit clean.* Victims of circumstance owe it to fate. Victims of choice owe it to themselves.*One of the widest gaps in human experience is the gap between what we say we want to be and our willingness to discipline ourselves to get there.
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