Mom loves son in law

I hope this is your idea of a sick joke, but if it isn't then I have this to say:

Where is your mother's head for suggesting such a thing? And yours for considering it?

Absolutely not. And if you are going to try and fool yourself with the argument, 'What harm can it do?' then let me ask you this: If you do not FLAT OUT tell your mother that she's got a screw loose and there's no way in hell what she proposes is going to happen - and if she DOES have sex with your husband, 'just once' then what is to stop them from continuing to do it?

And then what if your son gets older and your mother tires of your husband's stud services? Will it be okay with you if she 'teaches' your son 'what every man should know?' He is 13 now and you didn't boot her out of your house when she proposed showing him how to masturbate!

Get a grip! You owe your mother RESPECT and LOVE. You do NOT owe her a sexual partner. In fact, based on the conversation as you report it; you no longer owe her any respect, either.

If you feel inclined to do ANYTHING for your mother (and personally, I wouldn't) then locate and set her up with a nice SINGLE man. And if you don't know any, pop for an escort service. She can meet a nice guy that way - and one who will most likely be willing to 'earn' his pay... they're called gigolos.

Oh, and one more thing. You need your mother to watch your kids so you can "continue (to have a) social life?" Now that I think about it, you and your husband and your mother all deserve each other. Just do the rest of us normal parents a favor first, would you?

Find a new home for your kids where they can be raised with integrity and morals, by someone who loves them enough to sacrifice for them instead of passing the buck to someone who's not only mentally deficient but as spoiled as you are.

You and your mother need mental help from a qualified psychotherapist. Please get some before you ruin your children's lives as well as your own. 

I agree 100% with jkgrandma.  I could not have said it better myself.  This whole situation sounds sick.  Don't let your mother anywhere near your son.  She will scar him for life.  Then it will be on YOUR conscience. 

Sparky's Mom

Simply tell your mother that real friends don't feel obliged to exchange services of any kind, least of all her ruining your marriage.  Keep your mother out of your house and away from your 13 year old son.  She sounds as if she has developed a sex addiction, and is smearing that ugliness all over your house. You have adopted children.  You should qualify for respite care provided by your local social services agency.  Have a long talk with your husband about your mother's social diseases and her desire to teach your son to please himself.  That should keep them apart while you are away.  Inform him that infidelity will end your marriage.  You need to start looking at your mother as a woman with a mental illness that is hurting your family and potentially all your children.  You may want to go out and get away from the kids from time to time, but what your mentally ill mother is suggesting is a very high (and revolting) price to pay for babysitting.

Tell your mother to get some help and that until she does, she needs to stay away from your husband and your children.  Tell her that you no longer feel SAFE with her in your home.  AND, tell her if she is that hard up, to hire a male prostitute and to never suggest such an atrocity to you again.  This is not your mother, but an illness speaking, but you need to protect your family first.

Is this really true or a big joke? If it is true, your mother needs therapy. Doesn't her husband satisfy her enough? And you, don't fall into the trap of giving in. It is not normal for a daughter/mother to share a man (even if it has happened in dysfunctional families). It may sound tantalizing but it is SICK! Send her packing in a nice way and tell her how you don't think it is correct for her to even mention it.

i think i just threw up a little. why would you think about doing that? in no way is that the right thing to do. that is going against your husband and your vows. putting him and you at the risk of getting an std. there is no such thing as sex with no strings attatched in these situations. your family needs counceling or something. what is she were to get pregnant, what would the baby call you, sis or step mom? that my dear would be considered insest in some ways, he may not be blood to her, but he is family. and teaching a child how to masterbate....that is so wrong in so many ways too. sounds like your moms lack of sex is turing her into a possible pedifile. if i were you i would tell her how that is wrong in so many ways. you should not be worried about your social life and worry about those kids. you chose to have them, so learn how to take care of them, with or with out her help. she should not turn her back on your kids anyhow if you chose to not let her mess around with your husband. but she should not be doing all the work of raising them so you can go see your friends. what would this teach your children if it happened? not have morals? let anyone sleep with them or their partners? how bout sleep with each other? nothing good can come of this. and your mom is not being a good mother, if shes trying to put a guilt trip on you. i highly advise you to not go threw with this and tell her to back off. and if your vacation is not for work i wouldnt go, so you can keep an eye on your family and protect it. this is the most discusting thing ive read in a long time. and id keep track of when shes with your husband, and make sure shes not hitting on him when your not around. there are plenty of dating sites and what not for her to find her own guy, take advantage of it. dont lower yourself and family for your mom to have an orgasim. but her a vibrator if shes so sick of her fingers. or a male prostatute or something, dont let her tear apart your family, no matter how much she says it wouldnt, it will. its already bothering you. it will tear apart your family with the jealousy you have, loose trust, just make you go crazy. dont go threw with this, you go to church, go against your vows=going against your family and god. not a verry good idea.