Hi I have been itching to ask this question:
There is a girl at my high school, I'll just call her Meg, and I first really met Meg in January of 2011, New Years to be exact. I went over to her house only because we had mutual friends and I was invited by them, not by her, I honestly knew nothing about her. But I have to admit, this New Years party was a blast and we all had a great time. It was everything a party should be and she seemed to really take a liking to me. So we obviously became closer friends. I would start saying "hi" to her in the hallways, I would talk to her often.
But this is where things got weird... after about 3 months of saying friendly hellos and stuff she slowly started just smiling and nothing more. She kept saying fewer and fewer things to me and eventually she became very cold towards me and eventually started ignoring me altogether. I honestly don't know what in the world I could have possibly done, and strange thing is I wasn't the only one she had done this too. My close friend also had the same exact experience with Meg. It's all very strange and for awhile my close friend and I came to the conclusion that Meg acted this way out of her own defense, she felt threatened by anyone who might have been better at something than her.
I know, it's terrible, but it would make sense... I am a really intelligent person but if I'm smart, then Meg is like Einstein. You have to understand she is one of the smartest girls in my school (yeah that does get on my nerves sometimes). So perhaps she just felt threatened by me? I've heard of people putting others down who they are afraid or jealous of...
And here's the worst part, aside from my close friend, all my other friends, like ALL my other friends seem to love Meg! And she is good at playing it up, she'll act very cool and say all the right things to fit in with them and then all of the sudden sneak in a subtle snide insult to me. Today she ran up to me and told me I had a nice outfit... and then continued to point out that the girl ten feet away from me had the "SAME exact outfit on OMG!" And then Meg went on this rant of how funny it was that we were wearing the exact same outfit and subtly hinted at how unoriginal I was and gave a funky smile at me. And yes it did hurt even if it was just clothes. Sorry for this long lecture on "girl problems" I probably sound like a drama queen but little things like that eventually pile up and they really do hurt after awhile on top of the fact that she has all the same lunches, and many of the same classes = many opportunities every day to sneak these insults to me. Someone just please respond with your reasoning on why she might act this way. Honestly I have nothing to go off of as far as anything I could have done to offend her. If I had some evidence of WHY she does this then I wouldn't be writing this. And also please your thoughts on what I can and should do... I suppose I'm only as smart as the people I hang out with, so I could try surrounding myself with a different groups of friends that accept me and are kinder to me but half of my really good friends will never in a million years stop hanging out with Meg. This wouldn't be such a problem if Meg treated me the way she treats just about every other friend of mine... but it's not that simple. And one last thing to add, she takes some kind of personal pleasure/satisfaction in seeing me fall short. The other week I had to present a project and yes, I didn't do so hot on the presentation, and being academically competitive she made sure to show her shock at how horrible the project was. In all honesty it wasn't good but it wasn't a horrible project and any decent human being supports someone for getting up in front of people and displaying their work.
Sorry I came here to ask some questions and wrote a novel for you guys... But please if any of you have been in my situation or you find yourselves strangely similar in personality to Meg I would love to read your reasoning behind why Meg does this... Am I seriously doing something wrong? How should I continue about this...?