What does it mean when your boyfriend of 4 years tells you he loves you and thinks your beautiful but isn't attracted to you sexually and doesn't understand why your sad about that
I hope that you are an open person so I won't have to sugarcoat my words. I'll open by writting that you are not going to like my answer. That is a red flag of warning. It's time for a heart-2-heart discussion with him. You MUST find out if he really mean what he said. If he is not attracted to you sexually than you have 2 options: Stay with him and be miserable for the rest of your life or say a nice goodbye and concentrate on finding your true love. Sorry but your boyfriend has very low IQ (not understanding whu you are sad about it). If he is not attracted to you why should he marry you ? and if he married you he would, most probably, find (sooner than you would imagine) the one that he is attracted to her sexually. Not very promising !. Sorry if I hurt you but I had to put a mirror in front of you (I appologize).
It means that he loves you and thinks you're beautiful, but isn't attracted to you sexually and he doesn't understand why you're sad about that. What exactly did you think it meant? Did you think it was a secret code and it really meant something else. I mean he did say it in English, right?
I can understand that it sounds as if he is sending you a mixed message. On the one hand he declares his love for you and in the next breath he says he is not "sexually" attracted to you.
Well...in my opinion, if he is not attracted sexually to you, then his love for you is not of the romantic kind. It is a general platonic love, one like he would have with a sister or a child of his. Romantic love includes desire for the other person sexually. Without sex, he won't stay around very long. I'd say, it is time to have a long and honest talk with him about your future. He doesn't seem to me to be interested in having a future relationship with you other than friendship.
I would move on quickly
It means that it's time to find a new boyfriend. Don't waste another 4 years with a guy that has figured out that you aren't the "one."
There are too many fish in the sea to waste time with one who can't offer you all of himself.
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