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When you know your marriage/relationship is over?

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tiptopmanager Answered:

This is a tough question to answer as it is different for everyone. I personally recommend that you try and work it out and seek counseling. However that does not always work for every couple and there are times that a marriage or relationship is not reconcilable or salvageable.

Here is a guide that many of the experts use to help determine if your marriage can be saved.

How do you know when you've finally reached the point of no return, when putting your relationship together again is simply too much of a stretch? In the end, of course, the answer is personal. But if your answers to the following questions are irrefutably “yes,” it might be time to let go:

Does every situation, no matter how seemingly trivial, evolve into a fight?
Do you or your spouse continually refer to hurtful events in the past?
Is all the respect gone from your relationship? Do you feel it is impossible to bring that respect back?
Have your goals and directions changed whereas your partner's have stayed the same? (Or vice versa.)
Is your partner no longer fostering your individual growth?
Have you and your partner both changed so much that you no longer share moral, ethical, or lifestyle values?
Have you and your spouse lost the art of compromise? When you disagree, are you unable to forge a path together that is acceptable to both?
Do you and your spouse have a basic sexual incompatibility? Do you feel completely unattracted to each other? Despite help from professional therapists, have you stopped making love?

Before you take this as set in stone, I would suggest that you visit this site that the above information came from. They will answer many of the questions that you are dealing with.

http://life.familyeducation.com/divorce/divorce-counseling/45517.html

Here is also a free publication that will give you the argument to stop your divorce and to save your marriage.

http://confidentlifestyle.com/Documents/SaveYourMarriage.pdf

Please take the time to consider all the information and to make a sound decision as it will be a life changing decision.

Good luck and best wishes.

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crmteas Answered:

I think when you get to a point that you are really, really mad. I am on my second marriage and possbily divorce at this time and I am getting to a point where it has to stop. The gun has to go, the lies have to stop and the emails also have to stop with the hatred words. Then to come back and say I still love you. I am sorry but now it doesn't work any more. It's over, the bullshit, everything. I don't think I should live this way anymore. I want out!

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walter.davis08 Answered:

I don't think there is a "same point" for any one person. There are a lot of factors that come into play when deciding if a marriage/relationship is over. I think if you're contemplating leaving your partner, you should seek out couples counseling, not necessarily to save the relationship but to be able to part ways in the most positive way possible. Good luck!

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And how are you feeling today?

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vijayarao Answered:

Good suggestions and helpful. Thanks.

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askmaelene Answered:

Its over when you two are not spending quality time together and if you are constantly arguing. Another indication would be if someone wants out and ends the relationship. There is still hope if you wish to work things out it just takes effort on both parts.

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