Ok.. so I just turned 17 now. My boyfriend and I ...

You young people who are "In Love" drive me to the brink. You don't listen to advise you don't like because you are in love and it's like no other love ever. That is so full of CRAP. If he left you you would cry for a while and two months later be with some other boy and "In Love" Do you really think this is the one you will spend your life with? You made the mistake of getting pregnant, that was not smart and you didnt use protection. There are 2 mistakes, and now lets throw marriage and more children in the mix while you go to collage that you won't finish.You will follow the track every stupid child goes that think they are grown up and play with sex not even knowing how to be safe. You wasnt smart enough to save yourself for the man you will marry and when you do then take a track record of partners who has done you and haw many children by different fathers. God you stupid kid's make me scream. and the world is full of you stupid people. You will be a drain on the government and a poor example of a parent.  I told it to you straight, didnt hold back because you asked. I know you won't listen and look around you and see the other looser girls who picked looser boys and let them talk them into sex. Belive me someday you will look back and say "I thought I loved only him" You will be in love a lot of times. And welcome to poverty. Without a collage degree you won't make it in the future.

Some young marriages work. Have you talked to your parents? If you both want to go to school then maybe you should wait to get married. Schooling will take up alot of your time. After you are done with school you will be a little older and wiser . You might find out that you both  might be glad you waited and that neither of you want to be together anymore. You might find out that you still want to get married and with a college degree you will be better suited  to begin life together as married

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Is ML your screen nickname?

After reading your question and Elden's post, it appeared to me that the ages had gotten switched.

I personally think that the two of you are probably too young to think of marriage, but you have taken the relationship to the point that is equivalent to ripping a feather pillow open in a hurricane. There is no way to go back to where you start, so you will need to make the best of this.

I would strongly urge you to become actively engaged in marriage counseling and possibly some type of partner therapy (possibly as a group). I do not think that you are nuts. I am urging the two of you to get as many bullets out the the chamber as you can before you pull the trigger.

No kids until both of you are out of school and employeed.

"his grandparents are all for it." I will bet you dollars to donuts that this position is based on extreme selfishness--------------- They want to have a great-grandchild.

I wish you the very best. I hope that you will be able take several of your children to visit Elden in the nursing home in 20 years.

Shalom,

Jay

Ok well first Elden. We did use protection and we were safe. I got pregnant on the very first time. He is the only one I have ever done anything with. So, don't go calling me "loose" I know what that is. And I never at once said that we were planning on having children beforee marriage. We are not dumb. It was an accident. We were both careful and it was the first time. So.. your answer was good, but you assumed some of the wrong things.

Ok well first Elden. We did use protection and we were safe. I got pregnant on the very first time. He is the only one I have ever done anything with. So, don't go calling me "loose" I know what that is. And I never at once said that we were planning on having children beforee marriage. We are not dumb. It was an accident. We were both careful and it was the first time. So.. your answer was good, but you assumed some of the wrong things.

No I didnt. You didnt know what the H--- you were doing, didnt ask questions, make plans for protection or anything. Thats why you think it was a accident, it was stupid and childish. Why would you take the gamble when a baby is involved. Stop and think...Im not trying to spare your feelings or hurt you, I just think you need to be talked to stright and lay it out. You did something dumb and I won't let it go without telling you what a mistake kids make with sex. It not for recreation. When you get into the adult world dont expect to be treated like children.