How to deal with a family member who keeps ...

Kat-

Slow down and try to organize things for us.

1. What was this event? No need for excruciating detail.
2. What is the cause of your sister's antipathy towards you?
3. Was your sister involved in this event?
   
4. What are the reasons that your children have taken a stance against you?

Other than trying to have a discussion with the parties involved, you will not get much that is very helpful until we have more data with which to help you.

JayR

my kids brought my grandson over to my sisters to  show off their new baby and my sister always hated me but she told lies to my kids that werent even true about me and told my daughter in law that i said she was a unfit mother which wasnt true.the fighting between my sister and me has been going on for years.i made a comment to my kids that my niece who was over there has hep C and very contagoius and to be very careful with the newborn baby.well my sister took this as "dont go over there"and proceded  to tell  my kids about something that happend 30 something years ago  in my past its none of my kids or her business to disclose this ...my sister is always in other ppls business but her own.now my kids wont talk to me cause my sister fed them so many lies and she denies it she said she didnt brainwash my kids or daughter in law.

Kat-

I still do not see a lot of information in your reply. I will sign off. Maybe someone else will have some suggestions.

Here is a parting thought. Hepatitis C is usually spread thru the blood, altho it can be contracted sexually. Hugging a person with hepatits C puts you at no more risk that hugging a person with AIDS. You are not going to catch either one. And you will make whoever you hug that has it fwill eel more accepted and loved.

JayR

The past is the past. We are to live for each day anew. What is the problem with your sister, your family period? God forgives us all. No one is to judge another person. He forgave the adulterous women and told her to sin no more. I'm sure your other family members have things in their past they don't want told. You should hold your head high. The others need to learn they are to form their own way of thinking and not listen to others. Everyone should sweep around their own front doors before they sweep around others. Keep a smile on your face and be thankful for each day.

well i might not be correct but let it roll off your shoulders and tell you kids if they want to know the truth you will tell them. don't hold any details back. i went something simalur to that with my sister-in-law. but i might not be the one to listen to i have three children 2 boys 1 girl. the boys will have nothing to do with each other and now the girl and one boy wont have anything to do. so you can take my advice or not. but it worked for me

well i might not be correct but let it roll off your shoulders and tell you kids if they want to the truth you will tell them. don't hold any details back. i went something simalur to that with my sister-in-law. but i might not be the one to listen to i have three children 2 boys 1 girl. the boys will have nothing to dowith each other and now the girl and one boy wont have anything to do. so you can take my advice or not. but it worked for me

It has been 30 years, and your sister is still holding a grudge, you might just have to love her from a distance.  However, give it one last try to make it right and If she is still bitter, then move on.