how do i apologize to someone i embarrassed on a public forum for something that was not his fault, my depression left me wanting someone to blame and that is no excuse.
This is what I would do: before approaching him I would frame a sincere, articulate, inclusive apology. Prepare it, write it down, and learn it. Next, I would phone him and ask for a meeting in a public coffee shop, where I would apologize. Alternatively, if you don't have a personal relationship where you could meet, write a snail mail letter and send it to him. Doing this by e-mail wouldn't have the same effect. Take responsibility for doing something wrong and express your regret, and try not to become defensive when you do apologize. Keep saying "I was wrong, and I'm sorry" if you need to.
About your depression, are you seeing a counsellor, who can help you to work out what you're depressed about, and help you to feel better?
Thank you, auntjoan, i'm doing that as we speak. he is in another state and i'm going to phone him soon. i posted the message on a chatline he owns and that was so "off the hook" and "over the top" for me, so totally out of character.
I'm going to also post an apology on his chatline.
Yes, i've been in psychiatric treatment since the age of 17 (i'm 53), and have been pro-active with my mental health since then. (i didn't say 'successful' 100% of the time, i said 'pro-active'. LOL. it was a decision i made and financed on my own and continue therapy. i actually traded tanning and getting my nails done way back then to have the money and to trade my luxuries to trick myself into 'treatment' becoming a luxury, which it has and a hobby, as well. this is my 3rd bout with depression, i've been extremely fortunate. mine, this time, is situation-motivated as opposed to a disorder, which i can only imagine as horrific.
i'm now writing what i'm going to say on his chatline forum, and what a grand idea to write it down, at least the key words.
Thank you so much, auntjoan. and hey ! (update: he forgave me before i opened my mouth and allowed me to speak cuz i needed to. he didn't' need me to, his understanding was already intact as he knows the state of some things in my life now.
fortunately, people that know me know me maybe too well, i put it all out there to give anyone and everyone the opportunity to make a valid, informed decision if they care to indulge me from jump-street based on nuances of my disorders that are sometimes likely to become personality characteristics.
again, thank you so much !