Please help! My son started sneaking out smoking weed and not coming home when he is suppose to be he is 14. My husband just kicked him out last night I has caused us to fight. I understand tough love but common now. This is something I swore I would never do. Where is he going to stay, what about school? What am I going to do!
I would start with you local child protection agency.
They will have concrete methods to help you deal with this situation.
You may not like their answers, but your current situation is not tolerable.
I gather this is not your husband's son?
First of all, I would never have allowed my 14 year old son to be kicked out in such a manner.
Either I would have made sure he had a place to go to - that I arranged for him - or I would have gone with him.
Now you have a big problem. Your son is god-knows-where and your husband is a jerk.
You need to start by telling your husband that his behavior is not acceptable. He is an adult, and as such, it is his job to protect and care for the children under his roof, whether their behavior is agreeable or not.
I suggest you tell your husband that you and he are going to locate your son and then you will work to find solutions to the problem which will benefit everyone, not just allow your husband to demonstrate his position as lord of the manor.
I suggest family counseling, to start - AFTER you find your son and bring him home where he belongs.
I used to follow my 14 year old, and show up; making the dope-smoking, fooling around with boys, and cutting school just a little awkward.
Your husband did the most loving, courgaeous thing. The law is a hungry fire and the world is a hard whip. It is better your son learn early and fast.
I well understand your pain. Our oldest has been in and out of jail and prison since he was about 13. Our youngest has had his bouts with the law. They must be allowed to fail big in order to look up for help.
Adult prisons/jails are many juvenile facilities are great training areas. Unfortunately, the training one receives (from the other inmates) will help to entrench him on the broad road to destruction.
Until more is revealed, I must emphatically hold to the position the the timing of LLC's suggestion is quite premature.
I agree with Jay.
Furthermore, it may well be considered child endangerment to do as your husband did and as Lambcreek suggests.
If your son has not yet returned home and you do not know where he is, then I suggest you consider making a police report.
That's because your son must be located at once; his safety is paramount and he will not be safe out on the streets.
where is your son at now you need to be with your son and leave your husband no man should kick a boy or any one out on the street how would he like it if some one kick him out i hope you have your son now .
i would kick your husband out and bring your son back into the house
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