I've only been married a month and we are having problems. Although we've been together for what seems like forever it has gone down since saying "I DO". After we said our I do's we didn't have a ...
It's impossible to say why the sudden shift: his loss of libido or loss of sexual interest in you right after the wedding. To say he is cheating is a huge assumption. Could be a lot of other things too.
But the extra time away before and after work and running off when tired with cousin does raise some suspicions, I concede. But only suspicion.
Could be the the state of marriage or something at work is felt by him as new stress. Marriage can be daunting for some (with new responsibilities, maybe more financial responsibilities or issues,, and more restrictions on his time and what he can do). This could have tripped him up mentally, but no way to know for me.
There is also something about the marrying can decrease sexual desire a bit. Before marriage, it is the "chase' and a little big of a sense of getting the "forbidden fruit" and being a 'stud". If not living together, its not THERE all the time, you have to make a date or go get the partner and plan when or where ... then suddenly its like all the fruit has been unloaded in your bed and is there for the taking, effortlessly, most any time. Ladies might not appreciate that view and I am not saying that is how all men see it, but I am saying there can be a sense of that and this husband might be having a problem like that; if so he needs to see a sex therapist or psychologist to discuss it.
However, there is no clear answer here. We can only speculate, from those facts. You need to talk to him about it and if you can't get to the bottom of it and resolve it talking to him, you need to get him (with you) to some counseling.
It is good you see this problem right away so you can try to nip it in the bud, early in the marriage.
Thanks for your comment or should i say advice on "is my husband cheating on me". Are you some sort of trained marriage counselor or something!!!
Something . :)
I am not a trained marriage counselor but I have extensive education in other related and unrelated areas; I am well read on matters of adultery, monogamy and divorces and I have done some research in these areas.
Your welcome, and I will try to continue to monitor this if you ask any other questions or give us any supplemental information; and I will respond to you if I see anything more from you.
I hope this works out well for you,