Discuss n's answer to: Is my husband overly controlling?

This man, because of his own low self-esteem, is brow-beating you and you know it.  You wrote all of those words  in your question box.  Re-read them.  Pretend a stranger wrote them.  What would you tell that stranger about her relationship with that man?

I do not think marriage counseling will help.  I think this behavior has gone on too long, both his and your own.  You have allowed him to continue abusing you with his words and his attitude.  He does not sound like he loves and cherishes you.  You sound as if you've fallen out of love with him(and rightly so.)   He sounds jealous of you and your talent and success or else he would not demand that you help him with his book instead of encouraging you to write your own and allowing you to have all the time and space you need to do so.  He knows how much that means to you and he is bound and determined to squash all your creativity. He is not a person you should continue to live with.  He is killing you in more ways than one.