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Hi,
Yes, yes, yes: You should be upset, You should be worried and you should insist that he stops it.  That's a poor excuse... Converstaions with her means he is (or might) still emotionally involved.  That is a sign he is not sensetive enough to realize he is hurting you or that he is extremely selfish (what he wants is [in his eyes] more important than what you want).  You'll have to fight for your rights.   
Best regards,

Hi,

     Yes you should really be worried.  Your husband is very insensitive by talking to his ex-wife, let alone telling you that you don't have communication skills.  Make him understand that this is not acceptable with you.  If he wants to talk to someone with communication skills , let him talk to a marriage counselor , not to his ex-wife.  That will probably help him.  Good luck and take care.

Well, it's a tough group of questions.  Have you been a party to any of these conversations?  Does your husband talk with his ex in a different way than he does with you, or about things that you two don't talk about?

Do you think you have bad or lacking communication skills?

I keep in touch with some of my ex-girlfriends because we have shared history, friends, and with one we've sort of combined our families in a large extended one, and are more like brother and sister now.  None of this would be sufficient reason for suspicion of cheating.

If you are cut out of the conversations, and they try to make sure you're not included, then you may have grounds to worry.

Yes, you should be upset.  Learn to communicate with your husband.  Do you read? If not pick up a book and read it and discuss it with your husband.  You must find out what he is interested in and you should have know this before you married him.

Does he call her secretly or only when you are not arround? Does he get emails from her that you are not allowed to see? does he have children with him?

If he is just chatting and you are sitting right there then I would say its ok.   You should tell him it makes you uncomfortable.

You must learn to have communication.

Good luck and hope it is nothing!

You should be upet, but not enough to upsrt him.  Instead,try to improve your comunication skills.  Find out what he likes talking about. Learn about his interests and communicate!!

of all the excuses i have heard,that one takes the cake!!not only would i be upset,i'd make him stop or kick him out!

i would be upset! you two are married and i don't belive it's right to still talk to your ex! i would be worried because something more might be going on! have you talked to your husband about this? does he know you are bothered by this? if he does and don't care yes you should be worried! it could be just that they are just talkng...but 9xs out of 10 it's more! hopefully everything will work out for you! i just know from my point of view if my soon to be husband was talking to his x we would have major prolbems! at the start he was talking to her! that ended real quick! this is your husband we are talking about!hope all works out,becky