My boyfriend wants a divorce and has 2 kids. his ...

D, I would be a little skeptical if this is what he is telling you, or have you talked with his wife?  I would be interested in knowing how old the children are.  Sometimes divorce is better for children than living in a home where there is constant tension. However,  if he were to get a divorce and marry you, what makes you think that he wouldn't cheat on you the way he did on his wife?  Something for you to think about.

What does this say about you???  A married boyfriend with children?  I hope the same thing happens to you and then you can feel the hurt you caused.  Don't tell me he wanted a divorce and all that crap, you should have waited untill it was over and done.  Someday the your actions will come home.

If he is still married, then he is not your boyfriend.

He is not free to be anyone's boyfriend until he is actually divorced. Not to mention the fact that he is stringing you a line of bull.

If he wanted to be divorced, he would be. If he's still living with his wife, then he still has a relationship with her. You only know what he's telling you - and I'd be willing to bet, at least half of it is lies.

Please have some respect for yourself as well as for all women, everywhere.

Break things off immediately and find someone who's available. This man is not yours to take and not yours to keep.

If they are legally separated, then yes, you have the right to be his boyfriend.  But, he is a grwon man.  He is either choosing not to divorce her, or she is fighting the divorce.  If they live in the same house, then he is using you.   A man who won'r divorce his wife but has no problem having a relationship with another woman really doesn't give a rat's rump about his children.

This is your decision.  It is time for you to decide what kind of a woman you want to be.  If he is still living in his wife's house, then he is cheating scum, and that makes you no better.  If he is separated from his wife but won't end the marriage, then he is using you as a toy.  Be smart.  Do what is best for everyone.  End the relationship until he has made a real committment to you.  Everyone in this situation deserves better.

D , You have received 4 of the best answers I have read on Yedda in a long time . Hopefully you will get some self respect and do the right thing , up to this point you have not .   He is not your boyfriend he is her husband therefore you are a mistress .  Harsh words , yes they are , but they also reality .  If he wanted a divorce he'd be divorced .  Elden is right you should have never gotten involved with a married man .  He is lying to you just as he is lying to his wife and children .  Since he will do this to them committ the Ultimate Betrayal ,stop and think what is in store for you . Sorry but the two of you deserve one another,  it is his wife and children that deserve better . 

Hi D,
Thumb up to each answer.  I would like to add several comments:
1.  You shouldn't have entered this relation.
2.  At present you are not more than his mistress. 
3.  Don't take it for granted that he was not intimate with her 
     for 8 years.  If that was the truth he would have left her
     LONG ago !. 
4.  He might be using that excuse (children) only to calm you.  
     I mean: His wife is not using them and it's his private
     excuse (lie).
5.  I have the feeling that he is a cheater and a player.  He
     wants to be with his wife and children and at the same
     time enjoy being with you. 
6.  Put him under a real test and see what happends (e.g:
     Don't come to see me until you have an official divorce
     (or at least officailly separarted) and you are ready to
     officially commit to me.   
7.  Think twice:  What he did to his present wife he might do to
     you after you are married (find a younger girl and tell her his
     famous stories......).   It's NOT a remote risk !. 
Sorry to be direct and blunt.  I appologise.
Best regards,