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Hello,Im a 39 yo male and Im starting to get ...

Hello,Im a 39 yo male and Im starting to get worried about my own mental health.Since I was a young child I have been moody,angry most of the time.As an adult I cant hold on to a job becuase I always lose the battle of discretion and say what I feel,and we all know how freedom of speech goes at work.As of latley I dont seem to enjoy anything anymore.My family hates me,and I have no real friends.Yes Im an ass,always have been,total head case who seems to be loosing the battle of keeping what little sanity I have left. As a teen my father went to prison for murder,and I spent most of the rest of my teenage life in mental heath facilities (like Cherokee here in Iowa).Well it dont matter what the experts say,that made me very bitter and hateful towards authority.Lots of stuff has happened since,and unlike most I dont or wont get over any of it.I cant forget!!Ive been put on all sorts of meds but none work.Tried going down the b positive road,but Im just angry and totally distrustful,it dont work for me.I dont have money for anything,hardly ever go anywhere,and I AM MISERABLE!!Please do not tell me its how u choose to be,if thats your answer your grasp on humane psch is non exsistant.These are real problems Im worried sick about and am begging to talk with someone who cares enough to help. Im not suicidle,but I need to work again,and I want to enjoy life some more before I die.Im even pissed off at God,and I dont even believe,funny huh.I do smoke alot of pot nowadays and its becuase I cant deal with realality anymore. Im just being honest and havent even scratched the service,but the bottem line is I need someones help and can really use someone to get some advice from.I dont want to be like this,please help. Thank You, Feeling Hopeless

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Amber Lee Bradley Answered:

Hello Hugh. You have undergone a lot indeed. Well, in order to be able to move on from what happened in your past, you must first ACCEPT the things that had happened. Acceptance is very important in moving on. Without it, you will keep coming back to the root of your problems, to the usual attitude you have. From then on, consult a psychiatrist or psychologist. This time, consider you sessions as real. If you really want to change, be serious with it. Open up your deepest thoughts and be an active participant. In relation to your belief to God, don't lose hope... Keep on holding on to him. He will do his job in reforming you but you must also exert your effort in reforming yourself.

No one can really help you except for yourself.

I hope this helps you and good luck to you.

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Ol' Yeddar Answered:

Hugh-

Here is a brief, but deadly serious answer. If you were only alcoholic, I would confidently tell you that AA could fix you. The 12 step program of AA provides a mechanism by which you can start to make necessary changes in your life. They don't really help with drinking. They teach a person the skills needed to not only cope with, but to enjoy life. It sounds to me as it you have hit bottom. Part of the healing and growing process will be getting a sponsor, someone who you can talk to and someone who can share his experience, strength, and hope. It is simple, but not easy. You have a lot of work to do. You were dealt a bad hand, but you can overcome this, the same as many others have.

I wish you well.

Jay

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Keep close to Nature's heart... climb a mountain or spend a week in the woods. Wash your spirit clean.* Victims of circumstance owe it to fate. Victims of choice owe it to themselves.*One of the widest gaps in human experience is the gap between what we say we want to be and our willingness to discipline ourselves to get there.

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ddavel544 Answered:

Well, Hugh...from all it sounds like, you have been dealt a 'rough hand' as Ol Yeddar and Amber has pretty much said. And from the sound of it, I think you may have been living out your teen years in your 20's...And are now living out your 20's in your 30's, by the fact you are almost 40 and still smokin' da weed....kinda hard. And in my opinion that is one of the main sources that is holding back your future development and any chance of learning to deal with the past. Take some time off of that stuff...and maybe there could be a chance to think more clearly, as to what your plans are for the next 20 or 30 so years. Don't live in the past man! Look to the future!

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What?....Who?...Me?... .....What'd I do?..... Political correctness is a doctrine, fostered by a delusional, illogical minority, and rabidly promoted by an unscrupulous mainstream media, which holds forth the proposition that it is entirely possible to pick up a piece of crap by the clean end.

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Ol' Yeddar Answered:

Hugh-

A good AA group will not condone dope smoking altho it is occasionally done by one or two. Again, AA is not about not drinking, but about learning to live successfully.

AA wants $1.00/hr. GOK how much the shrinks want these days. It's enuf to make you crazy. If you go, simply introduce yourself and say that you havae a desire to stop drinking. Talk about issues that trouble you, like your anger.

Your wanting to change is the first and most important thing for you, which you have done.

Good luck. I doubt that I will see this question again. If you want to ask me anything further, please do so as a comment or via a PM. Thanx. Again, I wish you the best.

Jay