My girlfriend is always being mean to me and putting me down?

Alright, me and my girl friend met October of 2006 and started dating around April 2007, so that makes like 2 years.. Well for the last few months we've been fight really bad and it's starting to take it's toll on me. We used to joke and play around all the time but now she gets mad at me and tells me to get off. I know I do the same thing and I know we are both growing up more but seriously, I miss the old us. I do everything for my girl, I cook for her, clean up after her and give her anything she wants to the best of my ability. But nothing seems to make her happy anymore. So my question is, what the heck is going on? I'm lost and confused.. I'm 17 and she's 20 and we've had 2 house's together, currently in our 3rd and I'm about to head to a art school in Dallas next January and I want to know if this relationship is save-able. I really do love her and she loves me, she was me first and I was her second.. and well.. idk how I could see myself without her....


Oh and PLEASE! No "Your too young" talk. Quite frankly I'm sick of it and don't want to hear it. I've been told by grown women that as far as they were concerned I was an adult. I've been on my own since I was 14. No I'm not one of those kids who didn't listen and got kicked out, my step-dad did some stuff for me then my mom passed away.. so yeah. Just shut up if your going to tell me I'm to young for anything.

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I think perhaps it's time for the two of you to take a little break.

I suggest you don't share a house right now. If you want to still hang out and/or see each other, then do it; but I think the disparity in your ages and experience along with your proximity is causing more problems than anything else.

Furthermore, at the age of 17 you are too young to be subjugating your own needs in order to take care of someone else's.

Stop focusing on doing "everything" for her and giving her "anything she wants" in order to make her happy. It sounds to me as though you desire her love so badly that you are willing to lie down and let her walk all over you.

What about you? What makes YOU happy? Have some self-respect and proceed with your life; it is only after you have learned who you are and how to love yourself that you will be able to have an equal partnership with this (or any) woman.

Good luck!

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Jkgrandma gave you a great advice, one thumb up to her. I do think that you should take a break from that relationship. Let her grow up emotionally and maybe she'll realize what she lost. You're too young to know that she is the one for you for good. You have enough time to find another compatible person to be with you for a long long time. Take care.

Be honest and be true to yourself.

Hi, ----------- I did not find in your notes 2 very important things: 1). Discussions (to find out "why"). 2). Counseling (If you can't do it alone you need a 3rd party's help). Sorry but I have a hunch that she has some reason to behave that way..... be smart and sensetive and find what it is..... I have the feeling that she wants to end this relation (maybe she realized that there will not be a mutual future as she is 3 years older {e.g: she wants a family and you are too young for that ?]). I don't think a break will help..... on the conttrary it will end them...... Sorry, I truely only want to help you !. -------- Best regards,

Love is the battery of life....

She is obviously unhappy in the relationship for some reason. Have you ever had a serious discussion with her about her actions and behavior towards you? If not, that would be a good start. Communication and expressing your feelings is key to making a relatiionship work. Ask her if she wants to stay in this relationship and if so, why she seems so unhappy.. don't be afraid to talk to your g/f. You should be able to talk to her about anything. Also, counseling is always an option if both of you want to stay together but are having trouble resolving issues on your own. This can be worked out if that's what your g/f really wants.

You give her everything she wants?

Put her needs before yours?

Dude, sorry, but you ruined it by being a total wuss. She simply doesn't find you interesting anymore, you handed all the power in the relation to her, and she grew bored of having no challenge.

Go read

It may change the way you see things. And yes, as a man I think dealing with women is a SKILL that can be learned, most men don't bother to try to learn how to treat a woman, but that just give us who do learn A BIG advantage. (Simply knowing what NOT to do is already a big help)



Personally, i think both of you should take a break from one another or simply walk away. For your own sake, you should take a break. No one should ever be subjected to that type of abuse.  Not all abuse is physical.

Be careful who you date. My ex-boyfriend had <a href="" rel="nofollow" cl="" class="comlink">genital warts</a> and <a href="" rel="nofollow" cl="" class="comlink">genital herpes</a> without ever telling me.

You truly have issues for sure but I'm not there yet. I'm going to deal with your question this way: Medical professionals say the ages between 11-15 is puberty from 15-17 you begin to move into maturity, from 17 on the maturity merely grows(I'm not talking about how you look, or the clothes you wear.) The facts are our brains just don't get us there before that. And by the time you are 20 you are still young but can make more rational decisions as an adult. Some of us mature faster than others.

Just reading some of the things you say and this girl friend have done and gone thru shows a couple of things 1. you/she ventured into housekeeping far to early, 2. you say you want the person you had before. That's gone because you both matured beyond those days and there is no going back.

Did it ever occur to you that you both have outgrown one another? That she has evolved into someone you now find that you are unhappy with? That happens.

You also mentioned that you are leaving for school. Why not let things go for awhile, give yourself sometime to rethink your priorities allowing her to do the same.

Sometimes loving means being willing to let go so both of you can be happy but not necessarily with one another.

I want you to keep this thought in mind as you move thru life: "BEING YOUNG DOES NOT LAST AS LONG AS BEING OLD." In either case there is no turning back.  I wish you more of the confidence you seem to have.

You have yet to meet the lady of your dreams.Wink

Its never too late to ask.

You're too young. and when you say "your" you should make sure you're using the form that actually makes sense, or else you're coming off as stupid.

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