do you think getting a lap dance is a form of cheating?
In my opinion, you can have a good time watching a table dance without being considered a cheater. Really, it depends on your type of relationship. Some couples think its funny and consider it to be ok. Others are strictly against it and if it happens, accountability is sure to take place. So, if you consider it to be ok, it is not cheating. If you have told your mate not to do it and they do it anyway, you will have to consider your options. You need to communicate to find out your partner viewpoint on this topic. Look for a way to keep your partner happy at home. Look for romantic ideas and topics to help you keep your love alive.