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A longtime "friend" has never invited me to her home in 15 years. She expects to be invited and to attend any social event I give. She says her home is too small or too cluttered. I accept her into ...

The answer could be complicated.  Often sexually abused children put up a wall of protection around themselves and their private spaces.  Having people inside their home feels intrusive to them, and they are very uncomfortable.  Not everyone comes from such a well adjusted background.  If you've been friends for 15 years, it is her friendship you enjoy, not her personal space.  As her friend I think you should give her the benefit of the doubt and not press the issue.

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sandy leigh

The friend is probably a bad housekeeper.

sandy leigh

Or she wants to just go to your house, maybe she is lazy

and cheap 

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