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My family (my husband, my son, my daughter and I) is living together with my parents, who are seventy years old. My parents are helping me with the caring of my daughter, who is only 10-months old. I ...

OronD Answered:

You mixed several issues together.
1. Unless you can't efford it better don't live with
     your parents.   It is not healthy.
2. Both families need there space (your parents
     and your family).
3. Being 70 years old your father is sure not cheating
     any more. If he cheated it was many years ago.
     No need to raise it now.
4. You could run to the wrong conclusions. Give your
     father the benefit of doubt (assume that he can
     provide a good explanation to what you heard).
5. I bet that you faught with your father because you
     had some inner anger to him (knowing that he
     cheated)
6. Appologize (tell him you were in a bad mood that
     day).
7. Keep your temper, control your anger, remember
     that your parents did much for you (don't take it
     for granted !).
8. Say nothing to your mom. It will break her heart
     (if she knew nothing) and it will not help (if she
     did know).