Hi Unhappy in Dallas,
I just wanted to let you know that you can invite Jay to see your question/comment as well, through private message. It was very thoughtful of you to take the time out of your day to give such a warm compliment, and I'm sure he will be touched.
I also wanted to say, that abuse in any kind of relationship is very painful, this I'm sure you know. May you seek God's guidance and find the answer/s you're looking for. God Bless Unhappy in Dallas~you are in my Prayers.~