I am 49 years old and all my weigh seems to go to ...

I would start doing a sport like yoga or pilates a few times a week and I would also consider joining a gym where you can get some professional guidance as to what machines to use.  If you go to the gym or a class at least 3 times a week, you will start to see a difference.  You can work specific parts of your bodies very well in a gym.  Good luck. 

The best way to lose the weight around the midsection is to run. And you don't need equipment. Half an hour 4-5 weeks jogging/running in the neighborhood and cutting back on your food intake will make a great start. Add some

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Behavior Therapy for weight loss is one of the safest, and healthiest ways to lose weight. Give it a try after looking at this video.