My daughter is 19 and in 2nd yr college. She is ...

Try helping her get to really know herself.  She took an aptitude test before enrolling, so you have some objective measure of her potentials.

We don't see ourselves the way we see others.  We can watch others make the same mistakes we ourselves are making, without making the connection until someone else points it out.  Help her see herself in other people.

This way you can enlighten without controlling. 

She should be ok for now but it's time to focus.  I have the same problem with my daughter and think I found something that works.  The most important thing, I told her the amout of years I would finance her and she need to finish by the set time. I explained the responsibities and the goals of a future young college grad.  I told her that changing in midstream would not help her finish by the set time and she would not meet her goals.  I convienced and (not forced) her to make a decision and I re-enforced it with positives and possible careers she could get. I did researh on the degree concentration to make sure she knew enough about the type of studing it requires.  Now, I just call that added influnce and not controling.  But since I am paying the bills, I should be able to help her decide a few things. Good Luck!

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"Helping a student in college"

I am assuming that switching her major about not knowing what she wants to do for a career rather than simply wanting to stay in college forever. Perhaps the way to get her to find a "major" so she finishes her degree would be to suggest a liberal arts major.  This would give her the flexibiliity to explore her interests and still work toward earning a specific degree.  If that's not an option, then I suggest asking her well thought out questions, that will help her find the answers herself.  1.  What do you enjoy the most?  2.  What do you like about it...  3.  What kind of jobs are available in that area?  4. What kind of life style do you want to have...  Another idea is to suggest that she do an internship for a semester.  Internships can immerse a student who is flip-flopping into a concentrated focus for a semester and ultimately help her set her direction.  They also tend to be worth a ton of credits so she can get a lot of credits under her belt through the internship and sometimes you can find internships that will count towards credit to two degrees: ie Political Science and Environmental science as a intern in state government in the health department might count toward a political science degree and an biology degree.  Then she'll also get a taste of the real world and perhaps grow up a little in the process. 

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